@JonathanShedler Also, this hate is not to be used as an example of a “cognitive distortion” where one can deploy CBT techniques to realize it is irrational. In a therapy relationship the hate is welcomed, not examined to be shown to be irrational.
Major diff w/CBT, even sophisticated forms.

@JonathanShedler Development occurs when the pt realizes and is supported to realize that their hate makes sense, and it is the flip side of love and need. A more depressive position relationship is achieved, where the pt can feel connected and safe, despite feeling the therapist to be weak

@JonathanShedler selfish, sometimes hateful, etc. When this capacity to have this sort of relationship is acheived, growth occurs, including a greater capacity to have relationships like this with others, and most importantly with one’s self.

@JonathanShedler If you aim at warmth and collaboration (like with a client in business) and see the pts hate towards you as “something to work on” to increase the pts skills to rationally assess their feelings, you aren’t allowing the growth of their capacity to feel hate and love at the same

@JonathanShedler time, regardless of what is based on evidence, reason, etc.
It is better to think of your role as making it safe for the pt to hate you and working to show the pt their hate is irrational usually does the opposite.