Alexander
Alexander

@datepsych

6 Tweets 6 reads Jan 12, 2023
Short video example of how a woman can get many dates on Bumble and yet like very few of them.
This is a much more typical pattern than a woman meeting many "Chads" she can't get over.
26/31 men didn't make it past the second date. She ended it with 20 of them. Only five men ended it first.
Only one person made it past 5 dates.
Reasons she ended it:
6 - "gave her the ick"
6 - "liked me too much"
2 - "not sure"
"Liked me too much" seems very common in general. I wonder if this is related to an avoidant attachment style.
Because "my partner likes me a lot" is actually a good thing.
People who get into relationships with partners who like them a lot are going to stay together.
I have described in the past how people who stay single into their 30s also are the ones who struggled to date in their 20s.
This isn't someone who struggled to get a first date, but it does look like there is difficulty forming a connection with someone.
Per the end of the video, there were at least two cases where she was open to going on more dates.
But somehow despite having a previous date these just fizzled out. Also seems kind of avoidant.

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