You’ll agree with me that there are certain things that someone would say or do, that would just make your blood boil. Here are five effective ways that would help you stay in control of your triggers as well as your reactions/response.
1. The moment you feel those sensations of tension in your body,take a deep breath, a break or a walk. Just make sure you PAUSE. If it’s possible, physically remove yourself from that situation.
The idea is to get away from the trigger as posible.
The idea is to get away from the trigger as posible.
You could say “Can we continue this conversation later? I don’t want to say anything I’ll regret”. Then stand up and leave. Just keep walking and taking deep breaths simultaneously.
It takes practice and you mightn’t get results immediately. But it definitely works with time.
It takes practice and you mightn’t get results immediately. But it definitely works with time.
2. During a conflict, one major proof of Emotional Intelligence is that you RESPOND rather than REACT. This is possible by visualizing three possible outcomes of the conflict.
a. A happy resolution
b. An adjournment of the conversation
c. An ugly fight.
a. A happy resolution
b. An adjournment of the conversation
c. An ugly fight.
Decide which option you’re going with, and let your actions be guided by your preferred outcome.
3. Calm down enough to listen to the other person’s perspective.
Most of the fights we have are largely due to the fact that we drew conclusions before we listened to what the other person was trying to communicate. Never get tired of asking for clarity.
Most of the fights we have are largely due to the fact that we drew conclusions before we listened to what the other person was trying to communicate. Never get tired of asking for clarity.
4. Identify your boundaries and uphold them.
Don’t wait for someone to provoke you into red hot anger before you caution them. The very first moment they cross your boundary, quickly and assertively address it so they can behave accordingly.
Don’t wait for someone to provoke you into red hot anger before you caution them. The very first moment they cross your boundary, quickly and assertively address it so they can behave accordingly.
5. Knows who’s worth your energy.
Exchanging words with a mad man makes you a mad man. Make a quick assessment of the situation. If the person is not on your intellectual wavelength, trying to make them reason with you is like pouring water into a basket.
Exchanging words with a mad man makes you a mad man. Make a quick assessment of the situation. If the person is not on your intellectual wavelength, trying to make them reason with you is like pouring water into a basket.
Save yourself the stress and keep it moving. It’s not worth it.
If you however notice that your emotions go from 0-100 in a flash, and you rarely know how to control yourself during that period. You should consider going for Anger Management Therapy
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If you however notice that your emotions go from 0-100 in a flash, and you rarely know how to control yourself during that period. You should consider going for Anger Management Therapy
‘Dedoyin
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