๐งต The Sopranos and Therapy
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The Sopranos is one of the thematically richest texts of the late American empire. "Tony I" would make a great Shakespeare play (but that's a different thread)
And one of its best themes is its merciless critique of Late American Therapy Culture
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The Sopranos is one of the thematically richest texts of the late American empire. "Tony I" would make a great Shakespeare play (but that's a different thread)
And one of its best themes is its merciless critique of Late American Therapy Culture
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The Sopranos has an amazing concept.
A Mob Boss, someone who's actions and motives are kept secret from even his wife and friends, goes to a therapist, who's job is to interrogate motives.
This is basically the Shakespearean monologue updated for TV.
The Sopranos has an amazing concept.
A Mob Boss, someone who's actions and motives are kept secret from even his wife and friends, goes to a therapist, who's job is to interrogate motives.
This is basically the Shakespearean monologue updated for TV.
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Except there are two Characters in this "monologue"...
Two people whose actions and motives need to be dissected... and Dr. Melfi certainly doesn't escape innocent and unscathed.
Except there are two Characters in this "monologue"...
Two people whose actions and motives need to be dissected... and Dr. Melfi certainly doesn't escape innocent and unscathed.
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Tony attends therapy because he's begun collapsing from panic attacks
Its a genuinely dangerous condition... throughout the show he injures himself falling and passes out whilst driving
He could get seriously hurt, and it betrays a painful levels of stress he's living with
Tony attends therapy because he's begun collapsing from panic attacks
Its a genuinely dangerous condition... throughout the show he injures himself falling and passes out whilst driving
He could get seriously hurt, and it betrays a painful levels of stress he's living with
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Dr. Melfi offers two treatments Prozac (+ other psychiatric medication)... and talk therapy, which graces almost every episode.
Tony and Melfi discuss everything, his marriage, his cheating, his dying friend, his parents, his extend family trying to have him killed...
Dr. Melfi offers two treatments Prozac (+ other psychiatric medication)... and talk therapy, which graces almost every episode.
Tony and Melfi discuss everything, his marriage, his cheating, his dying friend, his parents, his extend family trying to have him killed...
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they even pretty openly acknowledge the sexual tension between the two of them
they even pretty openly acknowledge the sexual tension between the two of them
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But there's one thing that they never talk about.
They never talk about what's actually causing Tony's stress!
But there's one thing that they never talk about.
They never talk about what's actually causing Tony's stress!
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Dr. Melfi, like most Psychiatrists, adheres to a code of non-judgement...
She actively laments having once judged Tony to her own therapist, she's so professionally ashamed of it.
Dr. Melfi, like most Psychiatrists, adheres to a code of non-judgement...
She actively laments having once judged Tony to her own therapist, she's so professionally ashamed of it.
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She refuses to judge his extortions, his murders (which she is vaguely aware of), or his unfaithfulness (which he's explicit about)
At one point Tony accuses her of judging his sex life... and she vehemently denies it
She refuses to judge his extortions, his murders (which she is vaguely aware of), or his unfaithfulness (which he's explicit about)
At one point Tony accuses her of judging his sex life... and she vehemently denies it
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But Tony needs judgement!
That's the only thing he needs. Its the thing he doesn't get from his wife, his friends and associates, his kids... even the religious figures in the show flee from offering any moral guidance
But Tony needs judgement!
That's the only thing he needs. Its the thing he doesn't get from his wife, his friends and associates, his kids... even the religious figures in the show flee from offering any moral guidance
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Melfi never asks Tony the one question that matters... the one that could actually solve his problems... The one any moral person in his life should be pleading with him to answer every time they see him:
Why doesn't he stop?
Melfi never asks Tony the one question that matters... the one that could actually solve his problems... The one any moral person in his life should be pleading with him to answer every time they see him:
Why doesn't he stop?
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Tony's life isn't a mess because His mother's awful or he was raised in a messed up home, or he has bad genes
His sister Barbara shares all these and is doing fine with her own kids. Indeed She doesn't have any story lines specifically because she knows not to get involved
Tony's life isn't a mess because His mother's awful or he was raised in a messed up home, or he has bad genes
His sister Barbara shares all these and is doing fine with her own kids. Indeed She doesn't have any story lines specifically because she knows not to get involved
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Tony isn't alienating himself from his family, or having panic attacks, or depressed because his childhood was bad or guilt from his mother
All these things are happening because the specter of violence and low thuggery is haunting him and poisons every aspect of his life.
Tony isn't alienating himself from his family, or having panic attacks, or depressed because his childhood was bad or guilt from his mother
All these things are happening because the specter of violence and low thuggery is haunting him and poisons every aspect of his life.
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His children's relationship with teachers, friends, and dates are poisoned by the implicit threat behind everything he does...
His daughter realizes season 1 she can never be close to him, when he disappears during her college trip (to commit a murder) then lies to her.
His children's relationship with teachers, friends, and dates are poisoned by the implicit threat behind everything he does...
His daughter realizes season 1 she can never be close to him, when he disappears during her college trip (to commit a murder) then lies to her.
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He can't talk to his wife about really anything bothering him...and her own relationships with friends and neighbors are made toxic.
His son spirals between trying to imitate Tony as a role model, and horrible depression when that infuriates Tony...
He can't talk to his wife about really anything bothering him...and her own relationships with friends and neighbors are made toxic.
His son spirals between trying to imitate Tony as a role model, and horrible depression when that infuriates Tony...
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So why doesn't Tony stop?
There isn't an obvious answer...
Tony has all the money he needs and far from aspiring to advance higher, he actively conspires to avoid being crowned head of his crime family, and thus avoid the heat that would bring...
So why doesn't Tony stop?
There isn't an obvious answer...
Tony has all the money he needs and far from aspiring to advance higher, he actively conspires to avoid being crowned head of his crime family, and thus avoid the heat that would bring...
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Setting aside even the morality, Tony as a wealthy and accomplished professional should be thinking early retirement and spending more time with the family... even if his life and liberty wasn't on the line.
And yet Melfi can't bring herself to ask this question.
Setting aside even the morality, Tony as a wealthy and accomplished professional should be thinking early retirement and spending more time with the family... even if his life and liberty wasn't on the line.
And yet Melfi can't bring herself to ask this question.
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No one asks this question of Tony... not his wife, his kids, his friends, or any of his wider family, biological or metaphorical
Part of this is his tyrannical attitude, but people challenge him all the time on all kinds of things, he gets questioned about everything else
No one asks this question of Tony... not his wife, his kids, his friends, or any of his wider family, biological or metaphorical
Part of this is his tyrannical attitude, but people challenge him all the time on all kinds of things, he gets questioned about everything else
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And they don't ask him for the reason Melfi doesn't ask him.
The vicarious thrill Melfi's own doctor diagnoses in her. The rush of violence and meaning they get. They don't want Tony to stop...that's why they don't ask, they just complain about symptoms that affect them
And they don't ask him for the reason Melfi doesn't ask him.
The vicarious thrill Melfi's own doctor diagnoses in her. The rush of violence and meaning they get. They don't want Tony to stop...that's why they don't ask, they just complain about symptoms that affect them
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The Freudian psychiatrist's non-judgement isn't a professional distance... Its voyeurism.
There's a word for when you help someone alleviate the symptoms of their bad behaviour but do nothing to make them improve said behaviour...
Its enablement.
The Freudian psychiatrist's non-judgement isn't a professional distance... Its voyeurism.
There's a word for when you help someone alleviate the symptoms of their bad behaviour but do nothing to make them improve said behaviour...
Its enablement.
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At episode 1! Tony can't go on. The stress and pending sense of doom is causing him to break down and pass out from panic attacks... At this point he'd be forced to quit from mental strain.
His own brain is trying to force him out! This is a healthy outcome
At episode 1! Tony can't go on. The stress and pending sense of doom is causing him to break down and pass out from panic attacks... At this point he'd be forced to quit from mental strain.
His own brain is trying to force him out! This is a healthy outcome
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By medicating and talking to him Melfi is effectively coaching him through a suicide he subconsciously wants no part of (and a multiple murder-suicide at that!)
Something the medical profession is increasingly actively pursuing.
By medicating and talking to him Melfi is effectively coaching him through a suicide he subconsciously wants no part of (and a multiple murder-suicide at that!)
Something the medical profession is increasingly actively pursuing.
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The Sopranos uses psychiatry the way Shakespeare uses religious struggle and the personal moral monologue in his plays
And in doing so the Sopranos shows psychiatry's failure, presuming to treat mental health but actively coaching self-destruction.
The Sopranos uses psychiatry the way Shakespeare uses religious struggle and the personal moral monologue in his plays
And in doing so the Sopranos shows psychiatry's failure, presuming to treat mental health but actively coaching self-destruction.
P.S.
Also checkout out my deep dive into bureaucratic decay, prison Gangs, revenge cycles, and organizational hell in my hit piece:
Cocytarchy: The Rule of the Damned
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Also checkout out my deep dive into bureaucratic decay, prison Gangs, revenge cycles, and organizational hell in my hit piece:
Cocytarchy: The Rule of the Damned
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