People would rather be impressive than be impressed
- Why over-giving is disrespectful
- Formula for strong connections
*THREAD* 👇🏼
- Why over-giving is disrespectful
- Formula for strong connections
*THREAD* 👇🏼
People would rather be impressive than be impressed
You feel better when someone asks you for dating advice
vs receiving their dating advice
When they ask you it subcommunicates:
- You give good advice
- They trust you
- You have value
- You are good at dating
You feel better when someone asks you for dating advice
vs receiving their dating advice
When they ask you it subcommunicates:
- You give good advice
- They trust you
- You have value
- You are good at dating
Research shows when people do us a favor
They feel better than if we did them a favor
Reality has a harmony to it
Day & Night
Inhale & Exhale
Awake & Asleep
Over-giving distorts the balance
To be a good giver one must also be a good receiver
They feel better than if we did them a favor
Reality has a harmony to it
Day & Night
Inhale & Exhale
Awake & Asleep
Over-giving distorts the balance
To be a good giver one must also be a good receiver
If all you do is give it's incredibly disrespectful to them
Which leads to being disrespected
If all they do is receive, they sit there dormant
A inactive spectator in the dynamic instead of a active participant
Their value, their opinions, their usefulness, their creativity
Which leads to being disrespected
If all they do is receive, they sit there dormant
A inactive spectator in the dynamic instead of a active participant
Their value, their opinions, their usefulness, their creativity
...all sit there not utilized, due to a unwillingness to allow them to invest
Not allowing yourself to receive
We don't consciously do this
Often it stems from not feeling worthy
Feeling like we have to give so much to be appreciated
Not allowing yourself to receive
We don't consciously do this
Often it stems from not feeling worthy
Feeling like we have to give so much to be appreciated
Because in the past we may have given so much
But gotten so little
So we improve our giving capabilities
Yet the lack of results repeats again
Leading to a feeling of unworthiness
But the truth is....
🔑 People would rather be impressive than be impressed
But gotten so little
So we improve our giving capabilities
Yet the lack of results repeats again
Leading to a feeling of unworthiness
But the truth is....
🔑 People would rather be impressive than be impressed
If you do all the impressing
It is you reaping the feeling of being impressive
If they're the one always being impressed
They never get to experience feeling impressive
🔑We like people based on how they make us FEEL
It has little to do with them
It's how we FEEL around them
It is you reaping the feeling of being impressive
If they're the one always being impressed
They never get to experience feeling impressive
🔑We like people based on how they make us FEEL
It has little to do with them
It's how we FEEL around them
Strategies to be 'impressive' only work on people not worth impressing
Successful people typically have improved awareness & perception
They can see through acts into the true intentions
Overcompensating is often to mask a lack of something
Successful people typically have improved awareness & perception
They can see through acts into the true intentions
Overcompensating is often to mask a lack of something
🔑 Receiving is a form of giving
It allows someone else to shine, give, express, demonstrate their value
To get the gratification of helping someone or making them feel better
It keeps their mind engaged, active, and invested
All this contributes to how they feel around you
It allows someone else to shine, give, express, demonstrate their value
To get the gratification of helping someone or making them feel better
It keeps their mind engaged, active, and invested
All this contributes to how they feel around you
If you do something for someone
and it is well received with praise and/or reward
This subcommunicates to ourselves
- We have value
- We are appreciated
- We are liked
- We are _____ (specific good quality)
This feeling is more valuable to us than being impressed
and it is well received with praise and/or reward
This subcommunicates to ourselves
- We have value
- We are appreciated
- We are liked
- We are _____ (specific good quality)
This feeling is more valuable to us than being impressed
Ask for that favor
Ask for their advice
Give praise which makes them feel impressive
Communicate things you like & you'll be surprised to see people do those things for you
We want to be impressive more than we want to be impressed
Thank you for reading,
Cheers 🥂
- Yous
Ask for their advice
Give praise which makes them feel impressive
Communicate things you like & you'll be surprised to see people do those things for you
We want to be impressive more than we want to be impressed
Thank you for reading,
Cheers 🥂
- Yous
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