Some of us actually like our women. Their presence in our lives is not an accident. We observed them, observed ourselves, & saw their purpose in our lives before we brought them in. We won't treat them like guesswork because nothing in our lives is guesswork.
We did not want drinking women, so we knew not to fetch in bars. We did not want promiscuous women so knew not to engage the superficial woman. We have no heartbreaks to speak of. We have no reason to peddle fear.
It is true that they might leave someday, but that is not our burden to carry. They are serving a purpose now, and it is good. And that is what matters. They might also get mowed down by a lorry on the road, but you don't see us locking them in the house.
The idea that you can, through manipulation, tact, passion or compulsion, keep someone forever, is the root cause of all fear. You can't keep what doesn't want to be kept. But you can build yourself to learn to live with loss. And move on as soon as possible.
If you as a man can learn to live with yourself, minus the world, & minus the woman, fear will have no hold on you. Personally, no ex can say I treated them wrong. I've had my issues but none rooted in manipulation. & no ex has treated me wrong. I won't lie. They were good people
We have seen two realities, the one where a man & a woman were partners. And we have seen the reality where a man & a woman were irresponsible, mistrusting & prone to recklessness. We have seen the former work better. Both for them, and the society.
I'd be wrong to ask man to compromise himself, his happiness & his growth, to keep a woman. All a man needs is dignity, self-respect & vigilance. He must have the courage to demand what he gives, and if dealt an imbalance, have the courage to leave. It's all he needs.
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