"4 Psychological Reasons You Feel Inadequate All the Time"
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Do you often feel inadequate, like you’re not good enough or unworthy?
Whatever caused your inadequacy initially, in this thread, I’m going to walk you through a handful of subtle habits that are keeping you stuck feeling inadequate all the time:
Whatever caused your inadequacy initially, in this thread, I’m going to walk you through a handful of subtle habits that are keeping you stuck feeling inadequate all the time:
1. Your emotional expectations are unrealistic
a major source of feeling inadequate and unhappy comes from our expectations of ourselves.
When your emotional expectations are unrealistic, you end up feeling bad about feeling bad, which is what really makes us feel inadequate.
a major source of feeling inadequate and unhappy comes from our expectations of ourselves.
When your emotional expectations are unrealistic, you end up feeling bad about feeling bad, which is what really makes us feel inadequate.
Your emotions are not something you can control directly. So it makes no sense to hold yourself accountable for how they should operate.
Drop your emotional expectations for yourself and you will start to feel more and more okay with yourself.
Drop your emotional expectations for yourself and you will start to feel more and more okay with yourself.
2. You rely on reassurance to feel good
Reassurance-seeking is the habit of relying on other people to feel good.
A big part of inadequacy is low self-confidence.
Reassurance-seeking is the habit of relying on other people to feel good.
A big part of inadequacy is low self-confidence.
There are two big problems with reassurance-seeking:
1- It leads to poor quality relationships and resentment among the people who are closest to you.
2- It kills your emotional confidence.
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”
— Goethe
1- It leads to poor quality relationships and resentment among the people who are closest to you.
2- It kills your emotional confidence.
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”
— Goethe
3. You dwell on past mistakes
there’s nothing wrong with thinking about your past, including past mistakes.
This is called healthy reflection.
Thinking about past mistakes is a good idea if it’s actually productive and leading to new insights and better behaviors.
there’s nothing wrong with thinking about your past, including past mistakes.
This is called healthy reflection.
Thinking about past mistakes is a good idea if it’s actually productive and leading to new insights and better behaviors.
Unfortunately, many people get stuck in the habit of ruminating on their past mistakes well past the point where it’s productive, which means they get to feel bad about themselves and inadequate without any compensating upside.
4. Your values are unclear
To be clear, I don’t mean religious or moral values necessarily.
What I mean is personal values — the things that matter most to you in your life.
Values matter because without them it’s really easy to get lost.
To be clear, I don’t mean religious or moral values necessarily.
What I mean is personal values — the things that matter most to you in your life.
Values matter because without them it’s really easy to get lost.
Feeling inadequate comes from knowing deep down that you’re not living the life you really want.
If you want to feel less inadequate, start living the life you really want.
If that seems daunting or confusing, start by getting to know your values.
If you want to feel less inadequate, start living the life you really want.
If that seems daunting or confusing, start by getting to know your values.
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