Why women must not date potential. Rather wait for the winners and compete for them.
Do NOT shoot in the gym!! ππ
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Do NOT shoot in the gym!! ππ
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Background:
I've seen alot of talk on Twitter regarding women making their monetary demands on men and how men tend to come back with arguments so I figured I'd do some thinking regarding it.
I've seen alot of talk on Twitter regarding women making their monetary demands on men and how men tend to come back with arguments so I figured I'd do some thinking regarding it.
My book for men will be coming out in the first quarter and it largely covers intersexual dynamics, to help improve men to deal with the brutal reality we face but don't talk about.
The world is promoting and developing women but very little is being done to develop men. A
The world is promoting and developing women but very little is being done to develop men. A
Apart from that 23 people in South Africa commit suicide daily, of which 18 are men.
So this gets to me and as a result, I have taken my gift of insight and writing to add a valuable contribution to this topic to whomever is willing to learn & absorb.
So this gets to me and as a result, I have taken my gift of insight and writing to add a valuable contribution to this topic to whomever is willing to learn & absorb.
But lets get into it.
Women must understand something:
Men date at the level of their self esteem. That self esteem is drawn from a mans confidence based on his exploits in the world.
Men date at the level of their self esteem. That self esteem is drawn from a mans confidence based on his exploits in the world.
A man's Confidence is a direct product of competence which comes from his perfomance in the world. His competence determines how much he's respected which is a man's highest desire:
To be respected by both women & men.
To be respected by both women & men.
Men will draw their confidence from one or both of these entry points:
1. External (Job, position, money, car) - Short term & circumstantial confidence.
2. Internal (based on purpose & meaning) - Long term & sustainable confidence.
1. External (Job, position, money, car) - Short term & circumstantial confidence.
2. Internal (based on purpose & meaning) - Long term & sustainable confidence.
The journey of the top tier man who is complete is for him to first focus on the internal and intangible factors that build his character before focusing on the external (they can be done simultaneously)
This is why the ancient texts really emphasised the solitude.
This is why the ancient texts really emphasised the solitude.
Men have 4 archetypes:
1. The Slave
2. The Warrior
3. The Knight
4. The King
All men are born slaves and the journey of the man is to ascend beyond this by unlocking meaning and purpose in his life & then refining that to go higher.
(We won't go deeper into the archetypes)
1. The Slave
2. The Warrior
3. The Knight
4. The King
All men are born slaves and the journey of the man is to ascend beyond this by unlocking meaning and purpose in his life & then refining that to go higher.
(We won't go deeper into the archetypes)
This means that a man will be a slave to his environment, to his animalistic desires until he unlocks a vision for his life that imposes discipline on him.
Victor Frankl said:
Victor Frankl said:
If a man doesn't get his internal state correct first he will destroy whatever he achieves in external wins due to his lack of character and refinement.
This is due to his slavish desire for pleasure that only grows as he garners confidence from external factors.
This is due to his slavish desire for pleasure that only grows as he garners confidence from external factors.
It also has be said that men who place a higher value on the external elements hide deep insecurities that reveal themselves when the externals are taken away.
(Loss of jobs, positions or status)
Without the internal character refined, he cannot bounce back. Hence men fall.
(Loss of jobs, positions or status)
Without the internal character refined, he cannot bounce back. Hence men fall.
Often times, as in the case of Mike Tyson or Tiger Woods, you find that the man's gift is refined but he himself rarely is.
This is why men seek power but get there with no character, things like the #MeToo movements happen with all scandals.
This is why men seek power but get there with no character, things like the #MeToo movements happen with all scandals.
Now to the women:
They have innate ability to see potential in a man and then date that, only for the man to develop himself, leave her and find someone else to marry. I mean it's a generalisation but I've seen it to many times.
They have innate ability to see potential in a man and then date that, only for the man to develop himself, leave her and find someone else to marry. I mean it's a generalisation but I've seen it to many times.
What's happening here is that you meet a man who is a slave, who has the potential to ascend based on his vision.
You fall for this passion he evolves to the warrior archetype and then when he becomes a knight (a warrior who has become adept) or king, he leaves you why?
You fall for this passion he evolves to the warrior archetype and then when he becomes a knight (a warrior who has become adept) or king, he leaves you why?
Because he dates at the level of his self esteem that he draws from his confidence.
We men understand: The better we become, the better quality women (sex) we have access to.
This is also maybe why successful black men date other races (i could be wrong) but correlation.
We men understand: The better we become, the better quality women (sex) we have access to.
This is also maybe why successful black men date other races (i could be wrong) but correlation.
As he improves himself, he then attracts better quality women who are now aligned to his new state that then forces more respect (which is his highest desire) to come to him.
His tastes changes as he improves himself. And what he now is, you no appeal to.
Self interest > trust
His tastes changes as he improves himself. And what he now is, you no appeal to.
Self interest > trust
I think the best strategy for women is to leave slavish men who have potential alone until he/they are refined enough & see YOU as the prize they now want as a result of their improvement.
When women are quality, men are motivated.
The Great Gatsby movie shows this.
When women are quality, men are motivated.
The Great Gatsby movie shows this.
What attracts a man to a women, nature freely gives her (beauty).
What attracts a woman to a man a man must become with the use of time and intentionality.
What attracts a woman to a man a man must become with the use of time and intentionality.
The power couple (building together) narrative that society tries to push seems to be more of an exception than the rule.
You cannoy builf a strategy based on an exceptional occurrence, you have to build a winnable strategy.
You cannoy builf a strategy based on an exceptional occurrence, you have to build a winnable strategy.
I advocate for men and women to play to their strengths versus try ignore their weakness in hopes that they be the exception.
As a woman, why waste your time cheering on a man (who can fail) when you can own your power & be ruthless to wait at the finish line for the winners.
As a woman, why waste your time cheering on a man (who can fail) when you can own your power & be ruthless to wait at the finish line for the winners.
The win is that if a man wants you, based on his new level of self esteem, he will want to be with you.
The drawback, is that there will be other women competing for that same man at the finish line.
If I were a woman I'd apply this strategy.
The drawback, is that there will be other women competing for that same man at the finish line.
If I were a woman I'd apply this strategy.
So ladies, shoot in the gym having performed a thorough cost benefit analysis based on where you are, what you want, your attractiveness but most importantly what is possible AND probable.
Don't let love movies condition your mind to believe shit that is unlikely.
Don't let love movies condition your mind to believe shit that is unlikely.
That's all folks.
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