WHEN SUICIDE MAKES SENSE
β οΈThis thread isn't meant to encourage suicide but to help you understand how one gets to such a point
Most of the times, before the actual act of suicide, there is the cousin DEPRESSION. Depression is real, it's not a joke...
β οΈThis thread isn't meant to encourage suicide but to help you understand how one gets to such a point
Most of the times, before the actual act of suicide, there is the cousin DEPRESSION. Depression is real, it's not a joke...
In Africa, we don't really take it seriously, often we just think it's attention seeking or it's something that can go with simple advice. But it's much more complex than that, it is much more difficult to deal with mental pain than physical pain..
But how can we deal with something we can't even define. What exactly is depression. It can be described by one word or statement, but it's more about the state of mind. It's more of feeling NOTHING inside. Emptiness. Life becomes pointless ...
And it's not always the case of not having anything going in your life, you could have the career, the money, the relationship - which explains to you why even celebs & the rich in society fall victim to it too. It's a silent killer, no one is immune from it...
Depression is living in a body that fights to survive with a mind that wants to die. It's not wanting to be alive anymore, as there's seemingly no purpose. In depression, nothing makes sense...
Your favourite food starts to taste like newspapers. Your favourite movie/series begins to remind you of exactly what you want to forget. Everything around you begins to smell like the very thing you don't want to think about...
And slowly you start losing yourself. Your friends think you are crazy, your family thinks you are being unreasonable, your boss thinks you are not serious, your pastor thinks you need prayer & if on social media, your followers think you're attention seeking...
The whole world stops making sense and you just want the earth to open up and swallow you. You reach a point where suicid⬠begins to make a lot of sense. It's that bad. It's funny until it happens to you. It's headlines & breaking news until you are the one in the news...
It's just something to tweet or post about making fun of the person going through it, saying they're an attention seeker. It looks easy when someone else is carrying it & it's easy to pat them on the shoulder and say "just let go, it's just a phase"...
But when it happens to you, you realise it's not about letting go. Because honestly, you don't want to let go. A person going through depression needs all the help they can get not the opposite...
What makes it difficult dealing with depression is that more often than not, even the depressed person isn't even aware they're depressed. They just think it's a phase. All the depression person says is "I am not feeling well."...
Which is very dangerous because a wrongly diagnosed illness is a serious hazard. Usually, the depressed person has no idea what is going on. Infact some may even think it's just a normal thing & it will pass...
How then do you deal with depression. The people surrounding a depressed person must be sensitive enough to know this is depression & immediately start interventions. But in Africa we joke about it, it's a white people thing, we say...
It becomes more dangerous if the people around do not correctly & promptly diagnose it too because by the time they realise, someone may be in too deep & coming out may need complicated psychological therapy which unfortunately don't exist in Africa...
At a personal level, depression is caused by the inability to accept things as they are or imagining/thinking things will continue to be the same way they are now. Depression is compounded more by imaginations than anything else. Its wise therefore to practice mental restraint...
Try by all means to shift your mind from that which depresses you. For the majority it's social media (explains why celebs fall victim to it), unplug yourself once in a while from social media. It helps a lot in detoxifying (for me usually weekends I'm not active on social media)
It is advisable to spend a lot of time with people who distract you, do a lot of exercises to make the body & mind active, listen to good music (party songs not emotional songs) that doesnt remind you of the depressor. Stay away from short term panaceas like alcohol or drugs.
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