5 Hypnotic Strategies to Become a Better Listener
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What’s the single most important skill in a relationship?
Something that everybody claims to do well, but few actually can?
It’s listening.
Sure, it sounds easy.
But there’s a world of difference between hearing what people say and truly listening.
Something that everybody claims to do well, but few actually can?
It’s listening.
Sure, it sounds easy.
But there’s a world of difference between hearing what people say and truly listening.
So many relationships die in the cradle because the partners are unwilling to listen to each other.
But you know what?
It’s not a magical or a mystical trait.
It’s a skill that everyone can learn.
So here are 5 hypnotic strategies to become a better listener:
But you know what?
It’s not a magical or a mystical trait.
It’s a skill that everyone can learn.
So here are 5 hypnotic strategies to become a better listener:
1. Focus on the Person, Not the Problem
It’s easy to start doling out advice when someone tells you about a problem.
But that doesn’t mean it’s always the right thing to do.
Maybe they just want to be heard, understood, and feel connected?
It’s easy to start doling out advice when someone tells you about a problem.
But that doesn’t mean it’s always the right thing to do.
Maybe they just want to be heard, understood, and feel connected?
Even when someone is scared, angry, or upset, they don't want to be a burden on you.
But unwanted advice makes them feel like one.
So what to do instead?
Hold off your words of wisdom.
When they want your advice, they will let you know.
Till then, just be present.
But unwanted advice makes them feel like one.
So what to do instead?
Hold off your words of wisdom.
When they want your advice, they will let you know.
Till then, just be present.
2. Ask Open-Ended Questions
A good listener asks questions.
But the kind of questions matter as well.
So when someone close to you is upset, don't limit your questions to fact-finding.
Instead, use them to be supportive and empathetic.
Use them to build connections.
A good listener asks questions.
But the kind of questions matter as well.
So when someone close to you is upset, don't limit your questions to fact-finding.
Instead, use them to be supportive and empathetic.
Use them to build connections.
Don’t ask "Why are you upset?"
Ask - "What happened?"
Leave them a wide-open playing field.
Oh, and one more thing.
Stick to “What” or “How” questions. Avoid “Why” questions.
Why?
Because “Why” questions make people feel being questioned and judged.
Ask - "What happened?"
Leave them a wide-open playing field.
Oh, and one more thing.
Stick to “What” or “How” questions. Avoid “Why” questions.
Why?
Because “Why” questions make people feel being questioned and judged.
3. Reflect Back What you Hear
So you are focusing on the person and asking open-ended questions.
What do you do next?
You reflect back what the other person says in your own words.
It might feel weird in the beginning.
But you will get used to it
So you are focusing on the person and asking open-ended questions.
What do you do next?
You reflect back what the other person says in your own words.
It might feel weird in the beginning.
But you will get used to it
Why do this?
Because it makes the other person feel connected and understood.
It tells them that you care.
Magic happens if you can make them feel that.
Because it makes the other person feel connected and understood.
It tells them that you care.
Magic happens if you can make them feel that.
4. Label Their Emotions
Reflecting back builds mutual trust and confidence.
Want to take it a level deeper?
Then label their emotions.
Tell them if they seem anxious, afraid, worried, or sad.
Reflecting back builds mutual trust and confidence.
Want to take it a level deeper?
Then label their emotions.
Tell them if they seem anxious, afraid, worried, or sad.
They are used to running away from “negative” emotions since childhood.
Give them the gift of understanding, without judgment.
What happens when you do that?
It creates a deep connection that they aren't used to.
They will treasure you for that.
Give them the gift of understanding, without judgment.
What happens when you do that?
It creates a deep connection that they aren't used to.
They will treasure you for that.
5. Validate Your own Emotions
Do you know what really stops you from being a good listener?
It’s defensiveness.
Listening to difficult conversations is tough.
And if it somehow taps into your own fear and anxieties?
Then all hell breaks loose.
Do you know what really stops you from being a good listener?
It’s defensiveness.
Listening to difficult conversations is tough.
And if it somehow taps into your own fear and anxieties?
Then all hell breaks loose.
The original conversation slips away.
And you end up a mess of anger, guilt, and shame.
So how to avoid this?
You validate your own emotions that bubble up during the conversation.
Do that, or you risk being overwhelmed by them.
And you end up a mess of anger, guilt, and shame.
So how to avoid this?
You validate your own emotions that bubble up during the conversation.
Do that, or you risk being overwhelmed by them.
Listening well is a rare skill.
But now you have the tools you need to develop it.
Bring your full focus and your A-game during important conversations.
You will build a crucial relationship skill.
But now you have the tools you need to develop it.
Bring your full focus and your A-game during important conversations.
You will build a crucial relationship skill.
And that’s not all.
When people feel heard, they hang on to your every word as well.
The result?
You develop something that people crave - a magnetic and charismatic personality.
Is that something you want?
Then get going with these strategies today.
When people feel heard, they hang on to your every word as well.
The result?
You develop something that people crave - a magnetic and charismatic personality.
Is that something you want?
Then get going with these strategies today.
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