How to stand for yourself and stop being treated like a doormat.
Thread.
Thread.
Every day we make dozens of little choices that either benefit us by asserting our ideas or diminish us because we hesitate in making our views or desires known.
Sometimes it seems easier to go with the flow to avoid potential conflict.
Sometimes it seems easier to go with the flow to avoid potential conflict.
Truth is that letting people walk all over you will increase your feelings of stress and anxiety.
It will lessen your feelings of self-worth and play to your insecurities.
That's not a way to conduct a life.
It will lessen your feelings of self-worth and play to your insecurities.
That's not a way to conduct a life.
Learning to stand up for yourself will help you take charge of your life, believe in your own power, and embolden you to reach for your dreams.
The stronger you see yourself, the stronger you will become.
Let's help you achieve that RIGHT NOW!
The stronger you see yourself, the stronger you will become.
Let's help you achieve that RIGHT NOW!
First things first, you must understand this:
Your submissiveness is the problem.
Obviously, that's what we are going to attack first. 🔽
Your submissiveness is the problem.
Obviously, that's what we are going to attack first. 🔽
Your submissiveness comes from a passive style of communication.
Through your words and behavior, you signal to people that they can take advantage of you.
But listen, I'm not here to judge you.
I know why you do that.
Keep reading.
Through your words and behavior, you signal to people that they can take advantage of you.
But listen, I'm not here to judge you.
I know why you do that.
Keep reading.
Here are the traits of a typical submissive person:
▪️ They give into unreasonable demands.
▪️ They go along with the crowd even when they don't want to.
▪️ They withhold opinions out of fear of disagreement.
▪️ They Over Apologies.
▪️ They give into unreasonable demands.
▪️ They go along with the crowd even when they don't want to.
▪️ They withhold opinions out of fear of disagreement.
▪️ They Over Apologies.
Passive people struggle mightily to collect their fair social credits and devalue their own contributions.
This is important information for you since your goal is to make yourself successful socially and in life.
Keep reading.
This is important information for you since your goal is to make yourself successful socially and in life.
Keep reading.
Passive individuals struggle to enter win-win exchanges and are more likely to remain stuck in win-lose exchanges, as well as in manipulative relationships.
This is embedded in the very “fabric” of the passive style.
This is embedded in the very “fabric” of the passive style.
Not being able to say “no” makes you an easy picking for the bullies and manipulators of this world.
The rule of thumb is that you want to avoid sending too many submission signals unless you are doing it on purpose and for a strategic purpose (out of scope for this thread).
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The rule of thumb is that you want to avoid sending too many submission signals unless you are doing it on purpose and for a strategic purpose (out of scope for this thread).
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submission is bad when you do it not because it’s good to do it, but because you lack the capability for assertiveness.
If that’s the case, submission has the following harmful consequences:
If that’s the case, submission has the following harmful consequences:
▪️ Bottling up of anger and frustrations.
▪️ Potential for sneaky, passive-aggressive behavior as an outlet for that.
▪️ Falling (extremely) short of one’s life potential.
▪️ Opening the door to possible abuse.
▪️ Lowering one’s own social status.
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▪️ Potential for sneaky, passive-aggressive behavior as an outlet for that.
▪️ Falling (extremely) short of one’s life potential.
▪️ Opening the door to possible abuse.
▪️ Lowering one’s own social status.
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Beliefs are crucial.
People can change their behavior, but without changing faulty beliefs, they are fighting an uphill battle.
When people perceive themselves as unequal, they also accept unequal treatment.
People can change their behavior, but without changing faulty beliefs, they are fighting an uphill battle.
When people perceive themselves as unequal, they also accept unequal treatment.
But when they see themselves as equals, they automatically expect and, almost automatically, demand equal treatment.
Here is a list of beliefs that you absolutely must integrate to your psyche to overcome this situation.
Here is a list of beliefs that you absolutely must integrate to your psyche to overcome this situation.
1. You are equally as important as others. (If not more)
You might be less valuable to achieve certain outcomes in certain specific areas, but as a person, you are as valuable as anyone else.
You might be less valuable to achieve certain outcomes in certain specific areas, but as a person, you are as valuable as anyone else.
Plus, you can always become more valuable.
You can also be more valuable than some other person in some other areas where you have higher expertise and efficiency.
Next belief 🔽
You can also be more valuable than some other person in some other areas where you have higher expertise and efficiency.
Next belief 🔽
2. Being passive is not being nice.
Being passive is being mean and value-taking… To yourself first, and to others when you don’t tell them the truth.
Being assertive and honest is far nicer.
Being passive is being mean and value-taking… To yourself first, and to others when you don’t tell them the truth.
Being assertive and honest is far nicer.
3. You only have one life and it is a responsibility to take care of yourself.
Of course you are entitled to control over your life.
If not you, who else?
Of course you are entitled to control over your life.
If not you, who else?
4. You don't need to serve people in order to be appreciated.
It's quiet the contrary.
People respect people with strong boundaries.
Someone who doesn't respect your boundaries is not your friend.
It's a parasite.
It's quiet the contrary.
People respect people with strong boundaries.
Someone who doesn't respect your boundaries is not your friend.
It's a parasite.
5. You are not wrong just because people disagree with you.
People yelling their opinions are genrally those who are the least able to rationally defend it.
Disregard them.
People's opinions are of no importance to your life.
People yelling their opinions are genrally those who are the least able to rationally defend it.
Disregard them.
People's opinions are of no importance to your life.
6. It is not impolite to disagree with people.
No, it’s impolite to agree even if you don’t.
Polite is to be honest enough to let people know what you really think.
No, it’s impolite to agree even if you don’t.
Polite is to be honest enough to let people know what you really think.
7. Submissiveness is NOT the way to be loved and respected.
Passiveness is the way to be taken advantage of, attract bullies and abusers, and remain stuck scratching with the turkeys.
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Passiveness is the way to be taken advantage of, attract bullies and abusers, and remain stuck scratching with the turkeys.
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Passiveness makes the world a worst place because you hold back your contribution and your value-giving to worthy and deserving people.
By being submissive, you enrich the undeserving bullies and value-takers who take advantage of you.
There is more 🔽
By being submissive, you enrich the undeserving bullies and value-takers who take advantage of you.
There is more 🔽
This thread is about information.
And I strongly doubt a single thread will eliminate this problem from your life.
You need a tool.
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And I strongly doubt a single thread will eliminate this problem from your life.
You need a tool.
And I'm going to provide you with an effective one to handle all your social interactions.
Plus it's free.
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Fin.
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