23 Top Lessons From "Wanting"
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1. The Romantic Lie is the common belief that we have full agency over what we want and do in our lives.
2. The reality is that most of what we find desirable or undesirable is formed by "modeling", the desires of the people, cultures, and other hidden forces that shape our lives.
3. It is models – not our “objective” analysis or central nervous system – that shape our desires.
3. It is models – not our “objective” analysis or central nervous system – that shape our desires.
4. Mimesis is the sophisticated and often secret form of imitation that determines much of what we want and do in this world.
5. Where does desire come from?
All of our desires come from other people who served as models to shape what we want.
6. Often, these people endow these desires in us by showing them that they want these things.
All of our desires come from other people who served as models to shape what we want.
6. Often, these people endow these desires in us by showing them that they want these things.
7. People often don’t think about models that have influenced them or how they have served as models.
They think the world works like this:
Person → Desire → Object…
But it actually works like this:
Person → Desire → Model → Object
They think the world works like this:
Person → Desire → Object…
But it actually works like this:
Person → Desire → Model → Object
8. We form social bonds and cohesion by mirroring others.
9. Advertisers prey on our subconscious desire to imitate others all the time.
10. Many people think they’re immune from the influence of the desires of others.
9. Advertisers prey on our subconscious desire to imitate others all the time.
10. Many people think they’re immune from the influence of the desires of others.
11. The principle of reflexivity:
there is a two-way interaction between what people think and the situation in which they operate
for example, if investors believe the market will crash, they may behave in ways that cause the crash.
there is a two-way interaction between what people think and the situation in which they operate
for example, if investors believe the market will crash, they may behave in ways that cause the crash.
12. The same principle applies outside of financial markets.
13. People worry about what other people will think before they say something – which affects what they say.
14. In other words, our perception of reality changes reality by altering the way we might otherwise act.
13. People worry about what other people will think before they say something – which affects what they say.
14. In other words, our perception of reality changes reality by altering the way we might otherwise act.
15. One of the reasons social media is so addicting is because like a slot machine, it leverages the power of variable rewards.
16. While variable rewards are powerful, Burgis argues that “mimetic desire is the real engine of social media.”
16. While variable rewards are powerful, Burgis argues that “mimetic desire is the real engine of social media.”
17. If you’re driven by desire, you’re more subject to mimetic behavior.
18. You may jump from thing to thing as you gravitate toward the endless shiny objects in the world.
18. You may jump from thing to thing as you gravitate toward the endless shiny objects in the world.
19. An antidote to this problem is to have values, which are pillars that can help transform and organize your desires.
20. For example, imagine you value time with your family above everything else.
20. For example, imagine you value time with your family above everything else.
21. What it means to be anti-mimetic?
Being anti-mimetic is having the ability, the freedom, to counteract destructive forces of desire.
Being anti-mimetic is having the ability, the freedom, to counteract destructive forces of desire.
22. Being anti-mimetic is the antidote to being controlled by mimetic desire, which is “the unwritten, unacknowledged system behind visible goals.
23. The more we bring that system to light, the less likely it is we’ll pick and pursue the wrong goals.
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