You might be the toxic partner, here's how
It's easy to call people toxic. But what if we're unintentionally the toxic partners in our relationships?
This thread helps us all gain some self-awareness, so we can do better.
So, here are some signs that you're unintentionally the toxic one in your relationships
This thread helps us all gain some self-awareness, so we can do better.
So, here are some signs that you're unintentionally the toxic one in your relationships
1. You make promises you can't keep
Making promises beyond your capacity, like keeping secrets or agreeing to something and canceling at the last minute can make you unintentionally toxic
This pattern stems from the need to be liked. But this can damage your reputation.
Making promises beyond your capacity, like keeping secrets or agreeing to something and canceling at the last minute can make you unintentionally toxic
This pattern stems from the need to be liked. But this can damage your reputation.
To avoid this, it's important to take your time before making promises. Consider how it will look if you can't live up to your promise.
It's always important to be straightforward about your limits.
It's always important to be straightforward about your limits.
2. You're not direct with your needs, so you use pity
You manipulate people into doing things for you.
Instead of saying you need help with the dishes, for example, you say "I'm so tired. I wish someone could help me with the dishes"
You manipulate people into doing things for you.
Instead of saying you need help with the dishes, for example, you say "I'm so tired. I wish someone could help me with the dishes"
This stems from not knowing how to ask for help directly.
But people will always understand you when you're direct. So, be direct.
But people will always understand you when you're direct. So, be direct.
3. You get defensive...every time.
When you're never at fault. And constantly blaming everyone and everything, you could be the toxic one.
It helps to think as a collective rather than blaming someone. You get solutions faster this way.
When you're never at fault. And constantly blaming everyone and everything, you could be the toxic one.
It helps to think as a collective rather than blaming someone. You get solutions faster this way.
4. You're too sensitive.
Overly sensitive people feel like everyone is against them. And this is caused by low self-esteem.
People constantly ridiculed about things in their childhood will grow up feeling insecure about those things.
Overly sensitive people feel like everyone is against them. And this is caused by low self-esteem.
People constantly ridiculed about things in their childhood will grow up feeling insecure about those things.
Getting to know yourself (self-mastery) helps to solve this problem. You're more conscious about your tendencies.
You also get to know your strengths, making these negative comments get to you less.
Start your self-mastery journey here.
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You also get to know your strengths, making these negative comments get to you less.
Start your self-mastery journey here.
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5. You're pessimistic.
In a bid to seem realistic, most delve into pessimism.
You always see the negatives to everything. But this makes you a killjoy
Plus, being negative increases stress, anxiety, and depression.
It is wise to look at the solutions instead of the problems
In a bid to seem realistic, most delve into pessimism.
You always see the negatives to everything. But this makes you a killjoy
Plus, being negative increases stress, anxiety, and depression.
It is wise to look at the solutions instead of the problems
6. Validation has to come from others.
Relying on validation from others is a huge problem.
Not seeing your value unless people see it for you shows low self-esteem and insecurity.
Learn to take small steps to rely less on outside validation
Relying on validation from others is a huge problem.
Not seeing your value unless people see it for you shows low self-esteem and insecurity.
Learn to take small steps to rely less on outside validation
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