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GUIDELINES
7 Social codes you should never break
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Sometimes you make terrible blunders when dealing with people and quickly regret your actions. The subject of āpeopleā in a social setting is an ever-growing and complex structure. You need certain guidelines to give you an idea of the direction to take at certain crossroads.
Social codes are rules you should follow when engaging with others, especially when there is more than one other person involved in the interaction. These are relatively easy to follow once you understand why.
Letās dive right in:
Letās dive right in:
1 Avoid gossip
Gossip is the number 1 killer of reputation. If people know you gossip, nobody will confide in you and everybody will see you as unreliable. The problem is not just that they will avoid talking sensitive things with you, but your apparent unreliability.
Gossip is the number 1 killer of reputation. If people know you gossip, nobody will confide in you and everybody will see you as unreliable. The problem is not just that they will avoid talking sensitive things with you, but your apparent unreliability.
This will trickle down. and affect your perceived competence.
A person that likes to gossip has a weak character and enjoys talking about the lapses of others rather than focusing on themselves. The best way to make sure nobody knows you gossip is simply to not gossip.
A person that likes to gossip has a weak character and enjoys talking about the lapses of others rather than focusing on themselves. The best way to make sure nobody knows you gossip is simply to not gossip.
You canāt be smart about it.
If you talk with me about someone when they are not around I know you will talk with them about me when Iām not around. If you must say something about another person in their absence, let it be positive and let it be brief.
If you talk with me about someone when they are not around I know you will talk with them about me when Iām not around. If you must say something about another person in their absence, let it be positive and let it be brief.
2 Donāt reveal peopleās secrets
Donāt reveal something that was said to you in confidence. That is betrayal.
The walls have ears. May people do this because they have nothing else to talk about. They have nothing worth listening to so they bring peopleās sensitive information.
Donāt reveal something that was said to you in confidence. That is betrayal.
The walls have ears. May people do this because they have nothing else to talk about. They have nothing worth listening to so they bring peopleās sensitive information.
They hope this will spice up conversations and their listener(s) will find them interesting for it.
Donāt think telling someone āthis is a secretā will make them less likely to share it with another person. The farther out it goes, the more momentum it gets.
Donāt think telling someone āthis is a secretā will make them less likely to share it with another person. The farther out it goes, the more momentum it gets.
3 Donāt reveal peopleās personal information
If a person tells you something personal about themselves, perhaps not so sensitive but personal and it so happens that they havenāt shared this piece of information with certain people in your friends' group, donāt do it for them.
If a person tells you something personal about themselves, perhaps not so sensitive but personal and it so happens that they havenāt shared this piece of information with certain people in your friends' group, donāt do it for them.
Let them do that themselves, it is not your job to go about spreading this information.
This seems pretty simple yet so many have messed up here. It is not that sharing this information is particularly harmful but as a matter of principle, you should respect them.
This seems pretty simple yet so many have messed up here. It is not that sharing this information is particularly harmful but as a matter of principle, you should respect them.
Don't be a blabber mouth about what they said to you.
Whatever their reason for not sharing with others is their business, mind your own business and keep your lips shut.
Whatever their reason for not sharing with others is their business, mind your own business and keep your lips shut.
4 Donāt jump the line of mutual friends
If your friend introduces you to their friend, you shouldnāt be seen with that friend after one week, hanging out without the first guy around. This is quite simple, yet many donāt seem to understand how it works.
If your friend introduces you to their friend, you shouldnāt be seen with that friend after one week, hanging out without the first guy around. This is quite simple, yet many donāt seem to understand how it works.
You can get close and all, but given you did not meet them on your own, you should at least have the courtesy to make sure your friend who introduced you too is in the mix.
As time goes by, perhaps you three would have gotten so close that this is okay.
As time goes by, perhaps you three would have gotten so close that this is okay.
But for the first few weeks, donāt jump the line and make your friendās friend your friend and then exclude that friend from your involvement.
Thereās nothing wrong with befriending people, and you will in fact meet a lot of people in many different ways and settings.
Thereās nothing wrong with befriending people, and you will in fact meet a lot of people in many different ways and settings.
Nobody will appreciate you jumping the line in this sort of situation. Be graceful and respect yourself.
5 Donāt criticize friends in public
You must never criticize your friends in public. Even if he does some dumb shit, stand by him and talk to him in private. Donāt antagonize him in front of the world. You may criticize him all you want if he's a stranger.
You must never criticize your friends in public. Even if he does some dumb shit, stand by him and talk to him in private. Donāt antagonize him in front of the world. You may criticize him all you want if he's a stranger.
Friends must be part of the same team.
You cannot go head to head with each other while others watch. This is a basic rule in loyalty and gracefulness. This also shows that you value them more than you value being right. When the curtains close, throw punches and settle it.
You cannot go head to head with each other while others watch. This is a basic rule in loyalty and gracefulness. This also shows that you value them more than you value being right. When the curtains close, throw punches and settle it.
6 Donāt get involved in another personās lie
If a person tells a lie and involves you in it, back out.
You can lie for your brother, but donāt let them do the lying and get you in it. Why? Because you should take responsibility for your lies, but not for another's.
If a person tells a lie and involves you in it, back out.
You can lie for your brother, but donāt let them do the lying and get you in it. Why? Because you should take responsibility for your lies, but not for another's.
If the person telling the lie decides to come clean later, youāll just end up being the clown.
Also, do not involve other people in your lie. If you keep letting people lie and get you involved, you will end up sacrificing your own reputation for another personās sins.
Also, do not involve other people in your lie. If you keep letting people lie and get you involved, you will end up sacrificing your own reputation for another personās sins.
7 Donāt befriend your friendās romantic interest
If they are involved, stay away from the other person. You have absolutely no business with them whatsoever. It is disrespect and disloyalty of the highest order for you to be conversing with them.
If they are involved, stay away from the other person. You have absolutely no business with them whatsoever. It is disrespect and disloyalty of the highest order for you to be conversing with them.
It does not matter what the subject of the conversation is, except if your friend is dying and sheās the only one who knows his whereabouts, you have no business dialing their number or texting them.
You shouldnāt even have their number in the first place.
Only men of the lowest caliber, the absolute scum of society, do such things.
Love is not a group project, stay out of it if you're not one of the two. Nobody will appreciate you being friends with their lover, nobody.
Only men of the lowest caliber, the absolute scum of society, do such things.
Love is not a group project, stay out of it if you're not one of the two. Nobody will appreciate you being friends with their lover, nobody.
That is all.
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This is day 9.
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See you inside.
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