This harmless habit is killing your self-esteem, confidence & self-respect without you even knowing it :
-- A Psychology Thread--
-- A Psychology Thread--
Does this sound like you :
• You have the superpower of saying what people want to hear.
• You can quickly become someone whom people cant resist.
• You can make everyone happy.
• You have the superpower of saying what people want to hear.
• You can quickly become someone whom people cant resist.
• You can make everyone happy.
Does this also sound like you :
• You worry about what others think of you
• You hold back because you don't want to offend anyone
• You agree with everyone just to avoid conflict.
If you said 'Yes' to any of the above then, I am pretty sure about your drug --
⭐Approval⭐
• You worry about what others think of you
• You hold back because you don't want to offend anyone
• You agree with everyone just to avoid conflict.
If you said 'Yes' to any of the above then, I am pretty sure about your drug --
⭐Approval⭐
Approval from others
You feel its the most logical way to be popular,
Agree with everyone or go extra mile to get that pat on the back.
"Yes sir, you are absolutely right", when deep inside you disapprove.
But you know the truth making others like you makes you feel gooood
You feel its the most logical way to be popular,
Agree with everyone or go extra mile to get that pat on the back.
"Yes sir, you are absolutely right", when deep inside you disapprove.
But you know the truth making others like you makes you feel gooood
Before you go further, ask yourself if you have an approval seeking behavior and be true.
Because if you cannot identify the problem, how will you fix it ?
Since now you agree that you need to make a change, lets go.
Because if you cannot identify the problem, how will you fix it ?
Since now you agree that you need to make a change, lets go.
Lets get this first that seeking approval is not bad always sometimes we really need validation which is okay.
As with anything lets understand why we seek external approval and then move over to how we can change this behavior.
As with anything lets understand why we seek external approval and then move over to how we can change this behavior.
More often than not our need for external validation arises from a lack of self-esteem.
The feeling of inferiority rises from a number of factors like your upbringing, social circle, education. culture, your personality, your work place.
The feeling of inferiority rises from a number of factors like your upbringing, social circle, education. culture, your personality, your work place.
Your learnt behavior from all aspects of your life accumulated and the need to be liked , to be validated by others keeps increasing.
Social media is making it worse , every time you post your selfie craving for likes and comments, your need for external validation gets stronger
Social media is making it worse , every time you post your selfie craving for likes and comments, your need for external validation gets stronger
Look out for these 10 most common approval seeking behaviors and what to do instead.
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• You go that extra mile.
To earn that "pat on the back".
You idolize someone and you desperately want their attention so you do anything it would take for them to notice you.
Even if it includes going way out of your way.
This screams 'APPROVAL SEEKING'
To earn that "pat on the back".
You idolize someone and you desperately want their attention so you do anything it would take for them to notice you.
Even if it includes going way out of your way.
This screams 'APPROVAL SEEKING'
Guess what, that someone you are trying to impress can smell your weakness and don't be shocked when your weakness is being used against you.
If you really want to outstand let the quality of work that you do speak for you.
Stop behaving like a puppy craving for attention.
If you really want to outstand let the quality of work that you do speak for you.
Stop behaving like a puppy craving for attention.
• You end up doing something you don't want to, because you are unable to say 'No' because you are afraid it will upset them.
If anything goes wrong you will blame the person for asking you.
But, you don't have a right to blame anyone when you could have just said No.
If anything goes wrong you will blame the person for asking you.
But, you don't have a right to blame anyone when you could have just said No.
Fear of offending someone even when you cannot genuinely do a task they want will cause problems in all areas of your life.
Practice saying No.
A simple No can save you a lot of time and energy.
Don't take up anything when you cannot, it will only cause problems for you.
Practice saying No.
A simple No can save you a lot of time and energy.
Don't take up anything when you cannot, it will only cause problems for you.
• You ask permission when its not required.
Specially, when you know the permission will be granted. You do this to make the other person feel authoritative, make them feel special.
But in doing this you tell your subconscious that the other person is important than you.
Specially, when you know the permission will be granted. You do this to make the other person feel authoritative, make them feel special.
But in doing this you tell your subconscious that the other person is important than you.
Asking for permission for trivial stuff creates an imbalance in your relationship with the other person.
They tend to think they are superior since you need their permission.
Only ask for permission when it is mandatory. Remember its easy to get forgiveness than permission.
They tend to think they are superior since you need their permission.
Only ask for permission when it is mandatory. Remember its easy to get forgiveness than permission.
• You want other peoples compliments.
You make up stuff or share details from your life just to get complements/ positive reaction.
- Sharing a sad story with online just for likes.
- Sharing photos just for likes.
- Sharing a story where you are hero only for likes
You make up stuff or share details from your life just to get complements/ positive reaction.
- Sharing a sad story with online just for likes.
- Sharing photos just for likes.
- Sharing a story where you are hero only for likes
All of the above stuff you do is to get an approval from others .
Remember I said 'Approval' is a drug.
You have to understand this what others think of you does not determine your worth.
You do not need anyone's attention to feel good about yourself.
Be true to yourself.
Remember I said 'Approval' is a drug.
You have to understand this what others think of you does not determine your worth.
You do not need anyone's attention to feel good about yourself.
Be true to yourself.
• You cant take criticism.
After all the effort you put in to get their approval. How did they dare criticize you !
Being criticized means you have failed achieving your goal of seeking approval which will becomes unbearable.
After all the effort you put in to get their approval. How did they dare criticize you !
Being criticized means you have failed achieving your goal of seeking approval which will becomes unbearable.
Not everyone is out there to get you.
All criticism is not negative, while people may try to demotivate you by criticizing you unnecessarily but remember that speaks more about them than about you.
All criticism is not bad, learn to receive criticism both positive & negative.
All criticism is not negative, while people may try to demotivate you by criticizing you unnecessarily but remember that speaks more about them than about you.
All criticism is not bad, learn to receive criticism both positive & negative.
• You change your mind because someone does not agree with you.
What is the best way to make people like you ?
Agree with whatever they say. Right ?
Agreeing with others all the time makes people think they can run over you anytime they want.
What is the best way to make people like you ?
Agree with whatever they say. Right ?
Agreeing with others all the time makes people think they can run over you anytime they want.
Everyone cannot agree with you every time, that is the reality of life. You have to make your peace with it.
Have the courage to stand up for yourself.
Also, if people around you are not open to hear opposing views its time you reconsider your relationship with them.
Have the courage to stand up for yourself.
Also, if people around you are not open to hear opposing views its time you reconsider your relationship with them.
• You love giving (insincere) compliments
Your shirt matches the color of your eyes. Ugh !
You just give compliments to please others and honestly, people see through it.
Your fake compliments are not going to get you the approval that you desire because they are FAKE.
Your shirt matches the color of your eyes. Ugh !
You just give compliments to please others and honestly, people see through it.
Your fake compliments are not going to get you the approval that you desire because they are FAKE.
Giving out fake compliments signals your subconscious that you are not a truthful person which instantly lowers your self-respect.
If you want to be nice, be true with your compliments and trust me its okay to not give a compliment when you don't feel like it.
If you want to be nice, be true with your compliments and trust me its okay to not give a compliment when you don't feel like it.
• You cant complain.
Well how can you afford to offend someone. You are so hooked on to the approval drug.
If you do not receive a paid-for product or service the way it should have been, staying quiet about it does not only cost you but it costs the business as well.
Well how can you afford to offend someone. You are so hooked on to the approval drug.
If you do not receive a paid-for product or service the way it should have been, staying quiet about it does not only cost you but it costs the business as well.
Its your right to complain when something is not right.
You do not have to be a jerk about it, its equivalent to being able to stand yourself.
If you realize you have a problem start small be vocal about things you don't like .
You do not have to be a jerk about it, its equivalent to being able to stand yourself.
If you realize you have a problem start small be vocal about things you don't like .
• You are a gossip king/queen:
Pull others down to lift yourself up. Sounds like a great strategy right ?
But it is not.
If you are trying to gain someone's attention by pulling others down they know you would do it with others as well. You instantly lose any credibility.
Pull others down to lift yourself up. Sounds like a great strategy right ?
But it is not.
If you are trying to gain someone's attention by pulling others down they know you would do it with others as well. You instantly lose any credibility.
Gossiping does not make you the star of the party it does the exact opposite.
You know someone who is called a radio because they cannot keep anything with them. That is what you look like when you gossip.
Whatever your intent may be remember gossiping is going to backfire.
You know someone who is called a radio because they cannot keep anything with them. That is what you look like when you gossip.
Whatever your intent may be remember gossiping is going to backfire.
• You behave contrary to your purpose, beliefs and values.
For what ? so that you are liked by others ?
Your purpose, values and beliefs are what make you unique. If you do things contrary to that you lose your individuality.
For what ? so that you are liked by others ?
Your purpose, values and beliefs are what make you unique. If you do things contrary to that you lose your individuality.
Think about that person who :
→Does the right thing
→Voices his concerns
→Is not afraid contradicting
→People cannot run him over
→Is vocal about what they want
→Stands up for himself & others.
Ya, you definitely know someone like this.
Ever thought what separates them ?
→Does the right thing
→Voices his concerns
→Is not afraid contradicting
→People cannot run him over
→Is vocal about what they want
→Stands up for himself & others.
Ya, you definitely know someone like this.
Ever thought what separates them ?
It is their
✅ Belief System
✅ Strong Values
✅ Stronger sense of purpose
which makes them stand apart, they are not doing things to impress others or seek external validation.
They are at peace inside because they have internal validation.
✅ Belief System
✅ Strong Values
✅ Stronger sense of purpose
which makes them stand apart, they are not doing things to impress others or seek external validation.
They are at peace inside because they have internal validation.
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I hope you stand up for yourself, be the person of whom everyone seeks approval and not the other way.
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