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How to deal with aggressive people
A thread to handle any hot-headed motherfucker
A thread to handle any hot-headed motherfucker
Dealing with an aggressive individual can be very overwhelming, it can ruin your day in some cases. Very often, you might even think back about the situation and regret not saying "this" instead of "that", or simply not handling the situation in a better way.
Luckily, there are ways to avoid finding yourself in such spot & properly handle aggressiveness without using violence (because some idiots just deserve a slap in the face, but society and all…)
What you need to understand is that an aggressive person is emotionally unstable; their anger controls them which makes them far more vulnerable than a calm person.
As such, the first and most important thing to keep in mind is that you keep an upper-hand on them as long as you remain calm.
It is of paramount importance that you control your own emotions and remain calm and rational.
It is of paramount importance that you control your own emotions and remain calm and rational.
As we’ve just explained, an aggressive person is an emotional person.
This makes it that their reasoning abilities are either limited or blinded.
This makes it that their reasoning abilities are either limited or blinded.
So instead of explaining to them with your own words, you should ask them questions and corner them in their own inconsistencies.
An aggressive person is also an attention seeker (most of the time), by asking them more questions and trying to genuinely understand their anger, you give them that attention they seek.
Now, let’s be honest for a second: You should put some bad faith in your questions.
You’re not discussing with them, you’re showing them how wrong and stupid they are.
But you’re aiming to do it in a way that makes it so they realize and say it themselves.
You’re not discussing with them, you’re showing them how wrong and stupid they are.
But you’re aiming to do it in a way that makes it so they realize and say it themselves.
Even if they don’t (because sometimes they might make sense and be legit aggressive for valid reasons), the simple fact of offering them active listening and an opportunity to speak up will calm them down.
Sometimes, this will not work.
Sometimes, this will not work.
Some people are simply driven by the desire of conflict.
They do not wish to talk, they just want to be mad.
For that type of people, it is better to apply the silence treatment & passivity.
They do not wish to talk, they just want to be mad.
For that type of people, it is better to apply the silence treatment & passivity.
What they seek is a reaction from you, and that’s exactly what you shouldn’t give them.
You should refuse to talk to them (”Calm down and we’ll talk” attitude) & stand your ground and your decisions.
Do not open the debate with them.
You should refuse to talk to them (”Calm down and we’ll talk” attitude) & stand your ground and your decisions.
Do not open the debate with them.
They will soon realize that their aggressive approach is useless and they will negotiate.
Again, some people are extremists.
They will not come down to earth nor try to compromise.
Here is how you deal with those: You cut them out once and for all.
Again, some people are extremists.
They will not come down to earth nor try to compromise.
Here is how you deal with those: You cut them out once and for all.
Remember, the most important thing to deal with an aggressive person is to not fall into their trap.
Aggressiveness is a Manipulation technique called Brandishing Anger.
One of the modules in MWS explains exactly how manipulators use anger and aggressiveness to get what they want.
It also has 26 more modules that can help you protect yourself.
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One of the modules in MWS explains exactly how manipulators use anger and aggressiveness to get what they want.
It also has 26 more modules that can help you protect yourself.
atlasegodriven.gumroad.com
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