How to avoid getting framed and reframe instead
A thread to strike back in a conversation
A thread to strike back in a conversation
Disclaimer: The technique mentioned in this thread requires you to put bad faith in the argument & conversation. BUT, this is useful against people with poor intentions & high conversation skills.
Let’s start.
Let’s start.
When having a conversation or argument, power dynamics come in play. Meaning that beyond the arguments and logic involved; there are domination and power games being played. Oftentimes, those power games overshadow the actual reasoning and logic.
One technique often used in such cases is the “Framing” technique. Which basically allows the person using it to direct and control the conversation in a way that suits their own points.
Framing refers to the act of setting up a stage for the conversation.
Framing refers to the act of setting up a stage for the conversation.
By staging and controlling the settings and parameters of the conversation, your interlocutor gets the upper hand and control. They drag you into a side they control.
This is like cornering your opponent in a boxing game.
This is like cornering your opponent in a boxing game.
You frame them in a corner they can’t get out of and start punching.
You have the freedom to move and land punches, all they can do is defend themselves.
What we’re about to see are tricks that would help you get out or not fall into their frame at all.
You have the freedom to move and land punches, all they can do is defend themselves.
What we’re about to see are tricks that would help you get out or not fall into their frame at all.
1 - Elements of Language:
The choice of words is probably the most important aspect when it comes to framing a conversation.
When arguing with someone from the “woke” movement; they will instantly use words like “phobia”, “oppression” & “minority”.
The choice of words is probably the most important aspect when it comes to framing a conversation.
When arguing with someone from the “woke” movement; they will instantly use words like “phobia”, “oppression” & “minority”.
Using an emotional pull and a specific vocabulary to depict their side of the story as the “victim”. These elements of language imply a victimization process, which makes you; being their interlocutor, the oppressor.
You haven’t said a word yet, but you’re already framed.
You haven’t said a word yet, but you’re already framed.
The best way to counter this is being acknowledging it as an emotional argument and asking your interlocutor to stay rational and logical. What you would be doing here is pushing back their frame and forcing them to trying something else.
Upon doing this, you should introduce your own elements of language in order to reframe the conversation and get rid of the settings your interlocutor has set.
2 - (Mis)leading Questions:
If someone wants to frame you, one thing they will do is ask misleading questions to make you slip. What this does is make you frame yourself with your own words.
If someone wants to frame you, one thing they will do is ask misleading questions to make you slip. What this does is make you frame yourself with your own words.
Their directing question always has an underlying intention to it in order to make you let your guard down before landing a punch right in the middle of your face.
There are two ways to deal with this.
There are two ways to deal with this.
Blocking the punch: a result of not letting your guard down, you simply ignore the question and keep going.
Dodging the punch: this is when you can see it coming, meaning you clearly understand the implications of the question.
Dodging the punch: this is when you can see it coming, meaning you clearly understand the implications of the question.
The way to do this is by highlighting the bad faith of your interlocutor and the poor intentions behind the questions. “So you just want me to say that X…, I’m not going to say it”. This way you simply lock the door they were trying to open.
But there is a 3rd way to deal with this.
And it’s an attitude you should have during the whole conversation.
And it’s an attitude you should have during the whole conversation.
3- Striking back:
If someone wants to frame you, the best way to deal with them is by reframing everything they say.
Frame them.
The most effective way to do this is by combining the information above.
Let me explain.
If someone wants to frame you, the best way to deal with them is by reframing everything they say.
Frame them.
The most effective way to do this is by combining the information above.
Let me explain.
What you should be doing (this is the bad faith part I mentioned in the disclaimer), is using manipulative methods.
The first being Denial.
Denial of facts makes you hard to talk to.
The first being Denial.
Denial of facts makes you hard to talk to.
Which will force your interlocutor to make concessions or make the mad to the point “they’re the stubborn ones”. This way, your interlocutor either becomes softer in their way of talking and a bit more cooperative.
Or they refuse the discussion and you can frame them as closed-minded (they’ll hate it).
The second aspect to add is by forcing your own elements of language and constantly directing the conversations by asking questions about the inconsistencies of your interlocutor.
The second aspect to add is by forcing your own elements of language and constantly directing the conversations by asking questions about the inconsistencies of your interlocutor.
But all of this can only work if you do this ONE THING:
Work and improve your assertiveness skills.
Work and improve your assertiveness skills.
If you get angry, you get framed.
If you get emotional, you lost.
Keep calm and reframe everything.
If you get emotional, you lost.
Keep calm and reframe everything.
End.
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