The 7 worst things to tell your kids
#6 will bring the Twitter hate
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#6 will bring the Twitter hate
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1. Do as I say, not as I do
More is caught than taught
Kids learn more by watching what you do than by hearing what you say.
Want to teach them healthy living?
Eat well, stay fit, get sleep.
Want them to know they’re loved?
Show them everyday (AND tell them)
More is caught than taught
Kids learn more by watching what you do than by hearing what you say.
Want to teach them healthy living?
Eat well, stay fit, get sleep.
Want them to know they’re loved?
Show them everyday (AND tell them)
2. Quit crying or I’ll give you something to cry about
Threatening a child for having emotions? Come on.
Yes, sometimes they’re over-the-top hysterical.
But the emotions are real to them.
They’re reasonable.
Teach them emotions are ok.
Not something to get punished for.
Threatening a child for having emotions? Come on.
Yes, sometimes they’re over-the-top hysterical.
But the emotions are real to them.
They’re reasonable.
Teach them emotions are ok.
Not something to get punished for.
3. I wish you’d never been born
Ouch.
Missing the life you had before kids is pretty common.
But that life is gone. It’s ok to grieve it.
Don’t dump that grief into your kid’s lap.
Grieve on your own.
And give them love, acceptance, and a sense of belonging in the family.
Ouch.
Missing the life you had before kids is pretty common.
But that life is gone. It’s ok to grieve it.
Don’t dump that grief into your kid’s lap.
Grieve on your own.
And give them love, acceptance, and a sense of belonging in the family.
4. You’re making me angry
No they’re not.
You’re choosing to be angry.
Not only does this phrase teach your kids they’re in charge of managing YOUR emotions
It teaches them other people get to decide THEIR emotional state.
Don’t teach them to be victims of those around them.
No they’re not.
You’re choosing to be angry.
Not only does this phrase teach your kids they’re in charge of managing YOUR emotions
It teaches them other people get to decide THEIR emotional state.
Don’t teach them to be victims of those around them.
5. Eat everything on your plate
Food costs money.
Someone worked hard to prep it. There’s starving kids in Africa.
You want them to be grateful.
Making them overeat won’t do that.
Start meals with a thank you to the chef.
Teach them to stop eating when they feel full.
Food costs money.
Someone worked hard to prep it. There’s starving kids in Africa.
You want them to be grateful.
Making them overeat won’t do that.
Start meals with a thank you to the chef.
Teach them to stop eating when they feel full.
6. Rub some dirt on it
The nuance is in how you mean it.
If it’s “expressing fear & pain is weakness”
You’re not helping them.
If it’s “ouch that sucks. You’ll be ok. Here’s how to pick yourself up again”
Then you’re giving sympathy and guidance.
Big difference.
The nuance is in how you mean it.
If it’s “expressing fear & pain is weakness”
You’re not helping them.
If it’s “ouch that sucks. You’ll be ok. Here’s how to pick yourself up again”
Then you’re giving sympathy and guidance.
Big difference.
7. Ok, but just this once
(But then you give in every time)
Be willing to bend rules or break routines sometimes.
But giving in to their demands every single time shows them
-The rule isn’t a rule
-You don’t hold to your word
Show them your word can be trusted.
(But then you give in every time)
Be willing to bend rules or break routines sometimes.
But giving in to their demands every single time shows them
-The rule isn’t a rule
-You don’t hold to your word
Show them your word can be trusted.
If you’ve said some of these, hey it’s ok.
Being a dad can be stressful.
Cut yourself some slack.
But recognize what you’re communicating with what you say and do.
Being a better father means seeing your issues and then changing course.
You’re gonna make it, brother.
Being a dad can be stressful.
Cut yourself some slack.
But recognize what you’re communicating with what you say and do.
Being a better father means seeing your issues and then changing course.
You’re gonna make it, brother.
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