The confident conquers any social dynamic.
Here’s how to up your social game 💡
Here’s how to up your social game 💡
1. Master the basics
It’s time to return to the fundamentals: Firm handshakes, steady eye contact, genuine greetings and small compliments.
Mastering the small foundations make for big success.
Let me explain why.
It’s time to return to the fundamentals: Firm handshakes, steady eye contact, genuine greetings and small compliments.
Mastering the small foundations make for big success.
Let me explain why.
The most sociable people are incredibly consistent with the basics.
They don’t slip up as their politeness is so solid that they feel almost out of this world.
They return every “Here you go” with a “Thank you so much” and follow every request with “please”.
Why?
They don’t slip up as their politeness is so solid that they feel almost out of this world.
They return every “Here you go” with a “Thank you so much” and follow every request with “please”.
Why?
Because it makes them reliable.
We’ve all met that guy who didn’t respond to our question or didn’t thank us after a kind gesture and it’s strange.
Skipping the basics of social interaction makes others feel uncomfortable.
Master the basics, for everything else depends on it.
We’ve all met that guy who didn’t respond to our question or didn’t thank us after a kind gesture and it’s strange.
Skipping the basics of social interaction makes others feel uncomfortable.
Master the basics, for everything else depends on it.
2. Bask in your true glory
Be as authentic as you can be.
Show your true colors to the world.
Anything else is a sin and a betrayal of the people.
There’s a simple reason for this:
Be as authentic as you can be.
Show your true colors to the world.
Anything else is a sin and a betrayal of the people.
There’s a simple reason for this:
We are exceptionally keen at spotting deception.
Those people who always change their opinions based on who they talk to – they’re like shadows of people.
Who are they really?
Their shifting personality makes you skeptical of how truthful they really are.
Those people who always change their opinions based on who they talk to – they’re like shadows of people.
Who are they really?
Their shifting personality makes you skeptical of how truthful they really are.
Be brutally real.
Joke about your unique hobbies, tell others how your fixation in dress socks or love of hedgehogs has turned you towards madness.
People love and remember that kind of authenticity.
Pretend you’re like everyone else and you’ll be exactly that.
Forgettable.
Joke about your unique hobbies, tell others how your fixation in dress socks or love of hedgehogs has turned you towards madness.
People love and remember that kind of authenticity.
Pretend you’re like everyone else and you’ll be exactly that.
Forgettable.
3. Put in effort and avoid the autopilot
It’s easy to live social life on autopilot, because that's what we’re used to.
Make more conscious decisions and you’ll quickly increase your social standing.
Here’s how.
It’s easy to live social life on autopilot, because that's what we’re used to.
Make more conscious decisions and you’ll quickly increase your social standing.
Here’s how.
Be more proactive in social settings.
Avoid phrases that don’t lead to further conversation like “huh”, “okay”, and “mhm”.
Short replies indicate that you’re not really interested in continuing the discussion.
It makes you vague.
Be more engaged instead:
Avoid phrases that don’t lead to further conversation like “huh”, “okay”, and “mhm”.
Short replies indicate that you’re not really interested in continuing the discussion.
It makes you vague.
Be more engaged instead:
Craft a genuine tone of voice that is involved no matter how tired you feel.
“Really?”
“Wow, that’s incredible!”
If you get stuck on autopilot, people might find you easy to talk to but just a bit too straightforward and boring.
Be someone that contributes to the discussion.
“Really?”
“Wow, that’s incredible!”
If you get stuck on autopilot, people might find you easy to talk to but just a bit too straightforward and boring.
Be someone that contributes to the discussion.
4. Be the master interviewer
You arrive at the office on a Monday morning dead tired.
You’re tempted to just say “Hey” to everyone and drag yourself into your cubicle.
What if you asked your team how they’re doing and how their weekend was instead?
You arrive at the office on a Monday morning dead tired.
You’re tempted to just say “Hey” to everyone and drag yourself into your cubicle.
What if you asked your team how they’re doing and how their weekend was instead?
We humans love to talk about ourselves.
Give your friends, colleagues, and family space to talk about their life and they will not only love you for it but you will learn about them and the world.
Asking questions is a phenomenal way to meet new people too.
Give your friends, colleagues, and family space to talk about their life and they will not only love you for it but you will learn about them and the world.
Asking questions is a phenomenal way to meet new people too.
Start a discussion with a simple compliment or remark:
“That sweater looks really nice, where did you get it from?”
People are eager to answer any positive questions that concern them.
Be the master interviewer by asking a lot of questions.
“That sweater looks really nice, where did you get it from?”
People are eager to answer any positive questions that concern them.
Be the master interviewer by asking a lot of questions.
5. Be friendly and approachable
This elevates the socially successful to the phenomenal.
To be the best, you need to be incredibly consistent.
This means setting a common standard.
This elevates the socially successful to the phenomenal.
To be the best, you need to be incredibly consistent.
This means setting a common standard.
We all know that one person who seems really nice until someone points something out:
“He’s really polite, but he treats waiters like garbage.”
If you want to be truly appreciated, you need to be ruthlessly respectful.
Here’s how the standard works:
“He’s really polite, but he treats waiters like garbage.”
If you want to be truly appreciated, you need to be ruthlessly respectful.
Here’s how the standard works:
You don’t even need to be an extrovert.
You just need to have an incredibly kind reputation by setting a common level of respect for everyone you talk to.
Think of Tom Hanks.
Unproblematic guy, hero of the people, and respectful to anyone.
Be friendly and approachable.
You just need to have an incredibly kind reputation by setting a common level of respect for everyone you talk to.
Think of Tom Hanks.
Unproblematic guy, hero of the people, and respectful to anyone.
Be friendly and approachable.
Quick recap:
1. Master the basics
2. Bask in your true glory
3. Put in effort and avoid the autopilot
4. Be the master interviewer
5. Be friendly and approachable
1. Master the basics
2. Bask in your true glory
3. Put in effort and avoid the autopilot
4. Be the master interviewer
5. Be friendly and approachable
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1) teach you valuable psychology
2) redefine your growth
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The purpose of this account is to:
1) teach you valuable psychology
2) redefine your growth
3) improve your health
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