5 Advanced Social Skills You Should Master
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Wherever and whenever you’ll read about social skills you’ll be told some bullshit like Active listening & “set up your boundaries”, but the truth is the interesting part of social skills is the more complex & aggressive skills that most are too cowardly to talk about.
- Confrontation
If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.
The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.
If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.
The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.
The reason is that most lack the balls & courage to go to confrontation and will back down as soon as they sense resistance from you.
Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations.
Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations.
Many times, you will find yourself tempted to confront someone but the power dynamics will simply not allow it.
This takes us to our next point.
This takes us to our next point.
- Power Intelligence
Understand power dynamics and being able to grasp them at the first sight as an underrated skill that very few truly master.
Understand power dynamics and being able to grasp them at the first sight as an underrated skill that very few truly master.
This not only allows you to better understand the people around you but also better understand the intrapersonal relationships between each of them.
Acquiring power intelligence and a better understanding of power dynamics will help you make the right moves, befriend the right people and most importantly: avoid you a lot of trouble while saving you time.
Because if you piss off the wrong people, things might get ugly for you. When instead, with a higher power intelligence and awareness, you could’ve befriended those guys and had them on your side.
- Quick Responses
Someone who’s quick-witted and always has the correct answer ready is someone people avoid messing with. It is also a sign of high awareness of what’s happening around them and is never taken by surprise.
Someone who’s quick-witted and always has the correct answer ready is someone people avoid messing with. It is also a sign of high awareness of what’s happening around them and is never taken by surprise.
You might think that this ability is simply a gift to some people, but the truth is those people are simply more present and can see provocations and questions coming. This allows them to have a couple of extra seconds in which they anticipate and prepare their answer.
Being quick-witted in your answers is mainly about your awareness and anticipation skills, and it’s not that complicated.
A rule of thumb: The shorter the answer, the better.
The more you say, the less impactful your words are.
A rule of thumb: The shorter the answer, the better.
The more you say, the less impactful your words are.
Leave it open for interpretation; always say less.
- Silence
If you can’t come up with a quick and short answer. Then silence is your ally.
The thing with silence is that it can be heavy and uncomfortable. The reason behind it is that most people are not used to silence and associate it with awkwardness.
If you can’t come up with a quick and short answer. Then silence is your ally.
The thing with silence is that it can be heavy and uncomfortable. The reason behind it is that most people are not used to silence and associate it with awkwardness.
If you can leverage this to your advantage, you can make sure to respond effectively without saying a single word.
Tip: If you’re going to impose silence, force eye contact.
Tip: If you’re going to impose silence, force eye contact.
- Reframing
When in arguments, conversations or debates, one of the most useful and effective techniques in communication and rhetoric is reframing.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
When in arguments, conversations or debates, one of the most useful and effective techniques in communication and rhetoric is reframing.
Reframing consists of twisting facts and proposing alternative scenarios.
But the most important part of it consists of first demonstrating that the initial frame is wrong and inconsistent.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
You will then introduce an alternative scenario by remodeling what is factual and leveraging the inconsistencies you pointed to count in your favor.
But this can also be used on yourself.
Developing this way of thinking can help you reframe seemingly negative events into positive ones and change the way you see anything.
Developing this way of thinking can help you reframe seemingly negative events into positive ones and change the way you see anything.
Reframing is an extremely powerful thinking process.
If you can learn it, you will drastically improve your communication and reasoning abilities.
If you can learn it, you will drastically improve your communication and reasoning abilities.
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