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How to respond to non-verbal power games
A social skills thread:
A social skills thread:
First things first, if you don’t spot them you, you can’t respond to them.
So start here
So start here
Once you spot the attempt at dominance, you must evaluate whether it is worth responding to or if the person in front is simply an idiot and there are no real stakes at hand.
This will be very important in determining your response, and I will explain further.
This will be very important in determining your response, and I will explain further.
Before we get into that, what are the options?
- Ignoring (Not always useful)
- Responding (May lead to confrontation)
- Mirroring (Useless if not done properly)
Now let’s look at when to use each and how to avoid the downsides of each.
- Ignoring (Not always useful)
- Responding (May lead to confrontation)
- Mirroring (Useless if not done properly)
Now let’s look at when to use each and how to avoid the downsides of each.
1- Ignoring:
Understand this: Not everyone deserves your attention.
Most of the time, when someone makes a power move directed to you, it’s because they’d like to have more power over you and take an ascendant position.
The problem is:
Understand this: Not everyone deserves your attention.
Most of the time, when someone makes a power move directed to you, it’s because they’d like to have more power over you and take an ascendant position.
The problem is:
Some people are just worthless and not worth engaging with.
They’re not your friends and there is nothing to gain from proving them wrong or protecting your boundaries.
My advice is:
If it’s non-verbal and you won’t see the person again in your life, ignore their shit.
They’re not your friends and there is nothing to gain from proving them wrong or protecting your boundaries.
My advice is:
If it’s non-verbal and you won’t see the person again in your life, ignore their shit.
Not only do you position yourself above their petty games, but they will also burn inside because they crave a reaction.
Now the case is different when dealing with someone from your entourage or when there are underlying implications (be it friends, colleagues or family).
Now the case is different when dealing with someone from your entourage or when there are underlying implications (be it friends, colleagues or family).
Power moves compound over time and if you let some things slide, you’re inviting them to disrespect you.
So let’s see the 2 other ways of responding to this.
So let’s see the 2 other ways of responding to this.
2- Mirroring:
When there are no emotional bonds, and the person is just someone you know but see often; the best way to deal with this is by mirroring their behavior.
What you want is for them to push it too far.
When there are no emotional bonds, and the person is just someone you know but see often; the best way to deal with this is by mirroring their behavior.
What you want is for them to push it too far.
Be smooth about your mirroring, make sure they feel it without being obvious.
What this will do is show them that you see through their shit and that you’re not okay with it.
Some will stop. Others will go further.
What this will do is show them that you see through their shit and that you’re not okay with it.
Some will stop. Others will go further.
For the second type of people; you want them to do so much that they ridicule themselves.
If you fail at doing this, wait until their petty attempts become too obvious and call it out.
This takes us to our next part.
How do we properly call it out?
If you fail at doing this, wait until their petty attempts become too obvious and call it out.
This takes us to our next part.
How do we properly call it out?
3- Addressing it:
There are two ways of addressing non-verbal power moves.
First one is re-establishing boundaries.
“Dude, back off & respect personal space. Do you need a hug or something?”
This is also a bit provocative but very powerful.
There are two ways of addressing non-verbal power moves.
First one is re-establishing boundaries.
“Dude, back off & respect personal space. Do you need a hug or something?”
This is also a bit provocative but very powerful.
There are very few things that can be answered.
Most of the time, they will simply laugh it out (because again, most people are cowards).
In other cases, some people have the balls to answer such sentences.
Those people are actively seeking confrontation.
Most of the time, they will simply laugh it out (because again, most people are cowards).
In other cases, some people have the balls to answer such sentences.
Those people are actively seeking confrontation.
Confront them.
This might be a short uncomfortable moment, but it helps you preserve your value.
No matter the outcome of the confrontation (you could lose the argument), that person will know that you’re not someone to fuck with.
This might be a short uncomfortable moment, but it helps you preserve your value.
No matter the outcome of the confrontation (you could lose the argument), that person will know that you’re not someone to fuck with.
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