I'm excited (and nervous) to post this thread: I've always known I wanted a partner but didn't know what a supportive one looked like (esp. as an ambitious woman who wants kids someday)! Now that I know, I'm so grateful for all the ways in which @PreetumNakkiran supports me:
All tasks have conception/planning/execution phases (Rodsky et al.). Often people think they did a whole task but only did the execution part (e.g., cook meals). Someone else has to conceive & plan (e.g., regularly grocery shop & stock the fridge). This is still a lot of labor!
PN takes on most household tasks & does conception, planning, and execution for all of them. There's always soap in the dispenser, chicken breast in the fridge, and my favorite ice cream in the freezer. I never have to think about these things (esp around deadlines)
He is both ambitious and treats me & family as his top priority. When he has a deadline or event coming up, he tells me in advance he'll be less responsive but will make time for me if I need it. I've never felt neglected, like I've felt in prev relationships when work got busy
Early in the relationship, he used to take notes about me---like on the ways in which I like to feel cared for (e.g., words of affirmation). It made me feel like he was really trying to get to know me, that this relationship is an important part of his life.
I, a person who used to be anxious, never feel anxious about this relationship. We have 1:1s every week (our relationship "trash" is being emptied regularly). We also tell each other gratitudes---it makes me happy to know how much my partner likes me & sees everything I do.
I could go on and on about his support, but the bottom line is: support is what the other person does to make it easier for you to do what's important to you. I'm so lucky to have this; thank you Preetum for everything. I hope you have a great birthday this weekend β€οΈ
P.S. if you know him, you can make his day by complimenting him on his nails. Also, generally he gets so excited by compliments βΊοΈ
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