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Here are 16 things you can start doing today, right now, to be the husband your wife deserves (thread)
Here are 16 things you can start doing today, right now, to be the husband your wife deserves (thread)
1. Stop saying âhappy wife happy lifeâ
The truth is, if your wife is happy, you will have a great life. But most guys woefully misunderstand this âadvice.â Your wife wonât be happy if you supplicate her at every turn. Your wife WILL be happy if you do the things on this list.
The truth is, if your wife is happy, you will have a great life. But most guys woefully misunderstand this âadvice.â Your wife wonât be happy if you supplicate her at every turn. Your wife WILL be happy if you do the things on this list.
2. Be optimistic
Nobody wants to be around a sad sack. Donât be a bummer. Things arenât always going to go your way. Thatâs life. But that doesnât mean you should let lifeâs disappointments spill out onto your family. Be a bright light. Always. No matter what.
Nobody wants to be around a sad sack. Donât be a bummer. Things arenât always going to go your way. Thatâs life. But that doesnât mean you should let lifeâs disappointments spill out onto your family. Be a bright light. Always. No matter what.
3. Get things done
Donât wait to be asked. Does something need fixing? Ok. Go fix it. What are you waiting for? Who else is going to do it? Be an effective man who runs a tight ship. And marvel as ânaggingâ disappears immediately.
Donât wait to be asked. Does something need fixing? Ok. Go fix it. What are you waiting for? Who else is going to do it? Be an effective man who runs a tight ship. And marvel as ânaggingâ disappears immediately.
4. Stop seeking approval
Did you fix the thing that needed fixing? Good. Stop showing it off to your wife like a proud second grader who completed his science project. Fixing things is the base expectation. Itâs the norm. Fix it and move on.
Did you fix the thing that needed fixing? Good. Stop showing it off to your wife like a proud second grader who completed his science project. Fixing things is the base expectation. Itâs the norm. Fix it and move on.
5. Stop laying around
Spending hours of your day scrolling social media? Or binge-watching netflix? Or playing video games? Sorry to break it to you, but thatâs not helping your marriage. Your time is the most valuable asset you have. People notice how you use it.
Spending hours of your day scrolling social media? Or binge-watching netflix? Or playing video games? Sorry to break it to you, but thatâs not helping your marriage. Your time is the most valuable asset you have. People notice how you use it.
6. Maximize your energy
High energy is the single greatest predictor of success in life. Assuming you have a base level of intelligence, nothing will take you farther than maximized energy. Check your testosterone. Get proper sleep. Eat whole foods. Exercise regularly. Repeat.
High energy is the single greatest predictor of success in life. Assuming you have a base level of intelligence, nothing will take you farther than maximized energy. Check your testosterone. Get proper sleep. Eat whole foods. Exercise regularly. Repeat.
7. Lift weights
Speaking of exercise, you need to start lifting weights as soon as possible. If youâre an able-bodied man, this should be a non-negotiable part of your life. Start with pullups and pushups if you have to. Building muscle is nothing but upside for your marriage.
Speaking of exercise, you need to start lifting weights as soon as possible. If youâre an able-bodied man, this should be a non-negotiable part of your life. Start with pullups and pushups if you have to. Building muscle is nothing but upside for your marriage.
8. Stop complaining
Nobody likes a complainer. And they definitely donât want to live with one. If you find yourself complaining frequently to your wife, take a step back. Can you fix whateverâs at issue? Then fix it. If not, accept it and move on.
Nobody likes a complainer. And they definitely donât want to live with one. If you find yourself complaining frequently to your wife, take a step back. Can you fix whateverâs at issue? Then fix it. If not, accept it and move on.
9. Stop expecting her to mother you
Your wife is your wife. Not your mother. She doesnât want to be your mother. She CANâT be your mother. A good motherâs unconditional love for her children is a miracle of nature. It does not transfer to romantic relationships.
Your wife is your wife. Not your mother. She doesnât want to be your mother. She CANâT be your mother. A good motherâs unconditional love for her children is a miracle of nature. It does not transfer to romantic relationships.
10. Crack jokes
Be funny. Thatâs the tweet. Your marriage should be fun. Your wife should be laughing daily (with you, not at you). Donât be a clown. Be genuinely funny. Charisma is a skill, and itâs driven in large part by wit. Donât know how to be witty? Youtube is your friend
Be funny. Thatâs the tweet. Your marriage should be fun. Your wife should be laughing daily (with you, not at you). Donât be a clown. Be genuinely funny. Charisma is a skill, and itâs driven in large part by wit. Donât know how to be witty? Youtube is your friend
11. Flirt with your wife
Howâd you act at the beginning of your relationship? THATâS the guy your wife fell in love with. You probably flirted with her. You probably had nicknames for her (not to be confused with âpetâ names). Be the guy she remembers.
Howâd you act at the beginning of your relationship? THATâS the guy your wife fell in love with. You probably flirted with her. You probably had nicknames for her (not to be confused with âpetâ names). Be the guy she remembers.
12. Never stop improving
Be the guy she remembers, but be a BETTER version of him. Increase your marketable skills. Improve your physique. Improve your charisma. You are never a finished product. Getting married should make you more motivated to improve, not less.
Be the guy she remembers, but be a BETTER version of him. Increase your marketable skills. Improve your physique. Improve your charisma. You are never a finished product. Getting married should make you more motivated to improve, not less.
13. Groom yourself
Donât be gross. Donât stink. Donât be dirty. Set a standard for your appearance and your hygiene. Then maintain that standard. Walking down the aisle isnât an excuse to let yourself go. And this is especially true when it comes to your grooming.
Donât be gross. Donât stink. Donât be dirty. Set a standard for your appearance and your hygiene. Then maintain that standard. Walking down the aisle isnât an excuse to let yourself go. And this is especially true when it comes to your grooming.
14. Set aside time
My wife and I have a rule. AT BARE MINIMUM, every single day, we have one hour thatâs just ours. No kids. No work. No business. Just our time. Use this time for connection, communication, whatever you want. Just make sure the time is wholly, truly yours.
My wife and I have a rule. AT BARE MINIMUM, every single day, we have one hour thatâs just ours. No kids. No work. No business. Just our time. Use this time for connection, communication, whatever you want. Just make sure the time is wholly, truly yours.
15. Know where youâre going
You need a vision. You need a purpose. You need a mission. These things donât have to be written in stone. They can and should be fluid as you pivot with lifeâs feedback. But you need to know what you want. And you need to act daily to make it real.
You need a vision. You need a purpose. You need a mission. These things donât have to be written in stone. They can and should be fluid as you pivot with lifeâs feedback. But you need to know what you want. And you need to act daily to make it real.
16. Be steady
This doesnât mean be predictable. This doesnât mean be boring. It means be still. Prioritize calm. Donât be erratic. Donât be a flake. Donât fly off the handle. Nobody should be walking on eggshells around you in your own house. You are the foundation.
This doesnât mean be predictable. This doesnât mean be boring. It means be still. Prioritize calm. Donât be erratic. Donât be a flake. Donât fly off the handle. Nobody should be walking on eggshells around you in your own house. You are the foundation.
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