10 Ways to Keep Your Wife on Her Toes
Marriage and LTRs tend to get stale;
that doesn’t have to be the case.
You can keep your relationship fresh (or turn things around) by taking a few intentional actions in your day-to-day.
A Long Thread That's Worth Your Time
Marriage and LTRs tend to get stale;
that doesn’t have to be the case.
You can keep your relationship fresh (or turn things around) by taking a few intentional actions in your day-to-day.
A Long Thread That's Worth Your Time
1. HAVE SEX OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM
The worst routine couples find themselves in is only having sex in the bedroom & at night.
You are adults who no longer have to sneak around your parents house to hook up.
This is the problem-
that sense of “being naughty” is removed.
The worst routine couples find themselves in is only having sex in the bedroom & at night.
You are adults who no longer have to sneak around your parents house to hook up.
This is the problem-
that sense of “being naughty” is removed.
Here’s a way to make it fun again;
If you live in your own place - *claim it all*.
Have sex in every room, every piece of furniture, at any point during the day.
Kids nap?
Sex on the couch.
Wife is doing dishes?
Pick her up, carry her to the garage, make out - then leave
If you live in your own place - *claim it all*.
Have sex in every room, every piece of furniture, at any point during the day.
Kids nap?
Sex on the couch.
Wife is doing dishes?
Pick her up, carry her to the garage, make out - then leave
The reasoning behind these actions are twofold.
1) You’re breaking the boring "sex routine"
2) You're repairing a sexual bond
The two of you are now "frisky & fun" again, not people who're bored with too much history together.
(Clean up after yourself, don’t be gross)
1) You’re breaking the boring "sex routine"
2) You're repairing a sexual bond
The two of you are now "frisky & fun" again, not people who're bored with too much history together.
(Clean up after yourself, don’t be gross)
2. SURPRISE VACATION
The routine of:
- wake up
- go to work
- come home
- “Relax”
- weekend (time to “relax” again?)
- start it all over
Is all too common in our day and age.
I call this "redundancy without progress".
Same ole same without any growth, rhyme, or reason.
The routine of:
- wake up
- go to work
- come home
- “Relax”
- weekend (time to “relax” again?)
- start it all over
Is all too common in our day and age.
I call this "redundancy without progress".
Same ole same without any growth, rhyme, or reason.
Explore our beautiful country or go somewhere local that you've never been.
Instead of buying another 'thing' - give your woman an experience.
People get stuck in loops.
To break the loop I'd found myself in at one point, I dropped a surprise vacation;
Here's how it went-
Instead of buying another 'thing' - give your woman an experience.
People get stuck in loops.
To break the loop I'd found myself in at one point, I dropped a surprise vacation;
Here's how it went-
On a weekend when we had nothing going on, I booked us a room at Great Wolf Lodge (waterpark, arcade, interactive stuff for kids type place).
I messaged my wife that Friday and told her to pack our things for a weekend away at Great Wolf.
I messaged my wife that Friday and told her to pack our things for a weekend away at Great Wolf.
She responded with:
What about the cat & dog?
(I'd handled it)
Money?
(I'd handled it)
This is short notice.
(I agreed).
I got home, and she had everything ready (my wife is awesome).
The trip was great, and she kept ranting and raving about how excited she was...
What about the cat & dog?
(I'd handled it)
Money?
(I'd handled it)
This is short notice.
(I agreed).
I got home, and she had everything ready (my wife is awesome).
The trip was great, and she kept ranting and raving about how excited she was...
It was an amazing adventure.
While there, we saw families stressed, melting down, and turning against each other.
Not us; we were smiling the whole time.
The key to this trip's success was research and having a plan and knowing everyone's schedule.
While there, we saw families stressed, melting down, and turning against each other.
Not us; we were smiling the whole time.
The key to this trip's success was research and having a plan and knowing everyone's schedule.
Make sure you’ve gathered all intel before trying to commence an operation of this magnitude;
Lest you become one of those men who have a grouch for a wife and children who, while surrounded by fun activities, are completely miserable.
Lest you become one of those men who have a grouch for a wife and children who, while surrounded by fun activities, are completely miserable.
3. SPICE UP YOUR SEX LIFE
There's a time & place for missionary and that time is **not** every time.
Make your sex life & bedroom your play place.
Sex should be:
- fun
- trusting
- free from taboo
- open to sharing what you want
Sex should not be a point of contention.
There's a time & place for missionary and that time is **not** every time.
Make your sex life & bedroom your play place.
Sex should be:
- fun
- trusting
- free from taboo
- open to sharing what you want
Sex should not be a point of contention.
I advise that you turn sex with your wife into something that would come from a Lewis Carroll Novel;
go down the rabbit hole together.
The limits to what you can do are infinite and entirely up to you and your lady.
(Sex is supposed to be enjoyed, have fun with it)
go down the rabbit hole together.
The limits to what you can do are infinite and entirely up to you and your lady.
(Sex is supposed to be enjoyed, have fun with it)
4. BE MORE INTERESTING
Don't ever let your wife become 100% privy to who you are and what you are going to do.
Some men will take this to the extreme - don't be dumb.
"I thought I was supposed to always be around, giving attention, & present for my wife."
No.
Don't ever let your wife become 100% privy to who you are and what you are going to do.
Some men will take this to the extreme - don't be dumb.
"I thought I was supposed to always be around, giving attention, & present for my wife."
No.
What are you supposed to do?
Where should you go to be more mysterious?
Don't make the easy, hard.
Jackie & I have things to talk to each other about at the dinner table because we work to improve ourselves individually, this improves the quality of our relationship together.
Where should you go to be more mysterious?
Don't make the easy, hard.
Jackie & I have things to talk to each other about at the dinner table because we work to improve ourselves individually, this improves the quality of our relationship together.
If you're looking to go out and your wife pushes back because this is an uncommon behavior- maintain composure.
Let her know there's nothing requiring your presence and there is something you need to work on or that you want to go do-
Then do it.
She's your wife, not your mom.
Let her know there's nothing requiring your presence and there is something you need to work on or that you want to go do-
Then do it.
She's your wife, not your mom.
5. EMBRACE YOUR ROMANTIC SIDE
I'm not saying, "Be a soft bitch" there's too much of that going around these days.
What I'm saying is, don't repress who you are.
Own your shit, all of it and for some, that means being more sentimental - who gives a fuck - do you.
I'm not saying, "Be a soft bitch" there's too much of that going around these days.
What I'm saying is, don't repress who you are.
Own your shit, all of it and for some, that means being more sentimental - who gives a fuck - do you.
If I text Jackie “I Love You” I capitalize the words - every time.
I do these small deeds that she'll never fucking know I do, for me...
It will depend on you & your preferences, but remember that you're doing these little things for yourself as much as her.
I do these small deeds that she'll never fucking know I do, for me...
It will depend on you & your preferences, but remember that you're doing these little things for yourself as much as her.
6. LEAD YOUR FAMILY TO BETTER
You are the leader of your clan.
How are they supposed to flourish under your guidance if you're unwilling to set aside time for their development?
Your family needs the presence of you-
Not more presents from you...
You are the leader of your clan.
How are they supposed to flourish under your guidance if you're unwilling to set aside time for their development?
Your family needs the presence of you-
Not more presents from you...
My wife is an organized individual who’s held a variety of professional positions.
She has a natural talent for connecting with children;
She's worked in the medical field, Real Estate, & is a wizard when it comes to cosmetics and hair which she is currently in school for.
She has a natural talent for connecting with children;
She's worked in the medical field, Real Estate, & is a wizard when it comes to cosmetics and hair which she is currently in school for.
My wife's kryptonite is always putting others ahead of herself:
- Me
- The Kids
- Anyone who needs anything
She always places them (us) ahead of herself.
This is where I come in.
I had to help Jackie break the worship of altruistic living.
- Me
- The Kids
- Anyone who needs anything
She always places them (us) ahead of herself.
This is where I come in.
I had to help Jackie break the worship of altruistic living.
Nobody can self-sacrifice their way to happiness
You saw that I said my wife was in school;
it took me years to get her to where she didn't feel guilty for not being home for the kids 24/7 or to spend a few grand on her goals.
Strong men always take care of those they love.
You saw that I said my wife was in school;
it took me years to get her to where she didn't feel guilty for not being home for the kids 24/7 or to spend a few grand on her goals.
Strong men always take care of those they love.
Your wife needs you to help her in life.
If she is stagnant, don't come to me saying, "my wife is unmotivated, sedentary, addicted to wine and social media".
Talking shit about your spouse or children is talking shit about yourself-
They're a reflection of you.
If she is stagnant, don't come to me saying, "my wife is unmotivated, sedentary, addicted to wine and social media".
Talking shit about your spouse or children is talking shit about yourself-
They're a reflection of you.
Your entire family is operating under your leadership and set standards.
Set the time aside to mentor, assist, and guide them all while making sure that you’re dedicating an appropriate amount of working together to share your own struggles and overcoming of obstacles with them.
Set the time aside to mentor, assist, and guide them all while making sure that you’re dedicating an appropriate amount of working together to share your own struggles and overcoming of obstacles with them.
7. INSTILL CONFIDENCE IN YOUR WOMAN
Your wife may not understand why you are making the changes to your habits and routines;
share some of it with her.
Let her know that you’re on a mission to be the best man you can be.
To give her that confidence, you must live confidently.
Your wife may not understand why you are making the changes to your habits and routines;
share some of it with her.
Let her know that you’re on a mission to be the best man you can be.
To give her that confidence, you must live confidently.
Educate your lady on why you're eating better, lifting, reading, & taking steps to ensure that you and she remain lovers as opposed to co-parents or apathetic roommates.
Help her find the confidence to do the same in life and to start standing her ground on her beliefs as well.
Help her find the confidence to do the same in life and to start standing her ground on her beliefs as well.
Society won't support your wife working towards being more feminine in the same way it doesn't support your development of masculinity.
Share your vision with your wife so she can see what's happening in the world and thus develop the confidence needed to speak the truth.
Share your vision with your wife so she can see what's happening in the world and thus develop the confidence needed to speak the truth.
8. RUN TEXT GAME
Most recommend you keep texts to logistics only;
for 90% of the guys out there, I agree.
Once you get the hang of being sexy without being obnoxious, then you can text your woman to keep the fire going even when you’re separated by physical proximity.
Most recommend you keep texts to logistics only;
for 90% of the guys out there, I agree.
Once you get the hang of being sexy without being obnoxious, then you can text your woman to keep the fire going even when you’re separated by physical proximity.
Nudes
Gym Photos
The reliable 🍆
These are all ways to keep the exchanges lighthearted and fun.
There's nothing wrong with being sexual, especially with your wife.
In fact, it's needed, and when done right, a solid text can kick get things into gear right when you get home.
Gym Photos
The reliable 🍆
These are all ways to keep the exchanges lighthearted and fun.
There's nothing wrong with being sexual, especially with your wife.
In fact, it's needed, and when done right, a solid text can kick get things into gear right when you get home.
9. FLIRT WITH YOUR WOMAN
I fuck with my wife constantly.
You know the whole "pick on the girls at the playground" concept?
If not, it refers to how boys will tease the girl they like but don’t let anyone else tease her.
I do that & I have since we first got together in 2003.
I fuck with my wife constantly.
You know the whole "pick on the girls at the playground" concept?
If not, it refers to how boys will tease the girl they like but don’t let anyone else tease her.
I do that & I have since we first got together in 2003.
I make my wife laugh often and at the most inappropriate times (she’s had to apologize at funerals)
Why do I do it?
Because it works.
Talking shit
Pulling pranks
Straight-up fucking with your wife in a tactful way leads to a solid and healthy relationship.
Have fun again.
Why do I do it?
Because it works.
Talking shit
Pulling pranks
Straight-up fucking with your wife in a tactful way leads to a solid and healthy relationship.
Have fun again.
I would never pull the chair out from under her as that would make her look stupid in front of everyone, and/or she'd break her ass.
The goal is humor, not embarrassment at her expense.
However, I would replace her incense with a sparkler.
(House went up like the 4th of July)
The goal is humor, not embarrassment at her expense.
However, I would replace her incense with a sparkler.
(House went up like the 4th of July)
There is a fine line between being a mischievous man who gets her rolling and being a dick.
Be mischievous in your dealings and always have her looking over her shoulder.
It can also be sexual; in fact, it should be sexual.
Remember, she is your woman, not your mom.
Be mischievous in your dealings and always have her looking over her shoulder.
It can also be sexual; in fact, it should be sexual.
Remember, she is your woman, not your mom.
10. REFUSE TO LOWER THE STANDARD FROM WHICH EXCELLENCE IS MEASURED
You set the bar Gentlemen;
You are the standard.
Heavy is the head that wears the crown; good thing you’ve got some strong fucking traps and are using social media to connect with other top tier men.
You set the bar Gentlemen;
You are the standard.
Heavy is the head that wears the crown; good thing you’ve got some strong fucking traps and are using social media to connect with other top tier men.
Family Men,
You set the bar from which:
- Your Wife will measure other men.
- Your Son will measure himself.
- Your Daughter will measure her potential boyfriends.
You must embody all of the values which you espouse.
You set the bar from which:
- Your Wife will measure other men.
- Your Son will measure himself.
- Your Daughter will measure her potential boyfriends.
You must embody all of the values which you espouse.
If you do the steps provided above, then your wife should be so busy trying to keep up with your next move that she doesn't need the newness of another man or losing herself to mindlessly scrolling on social media daily.
Spare yourself the fate of hating the life you've built.
Spare yourself the fate of hating the life you've built.
These steps are how I've kept my wife attracted to me & how we've kept things fun throughout the passage of time;
I hope it’s helped or planted some seeds in your mind as to how you can mix things up.
Implement better behaviors in your relationship & you'll get better results
I hope it’s helped or planted some seeds in your mind as to how you can mix things up.
Implement better behaviors in your relationship & you'll get better results
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