20 things I wish we were told in our 20s
A thread...
A thread...
1. It is ok to outgrow your school friends.
Especially if haven't grown as much and keep saying "you have changed so much", which is their attempt to slow you down.
Especially if haven't grown as much and keep saying "you have changed so much", which is their attempt to slow you down.
2. Don't be in a rush to grow up.
Growing up is hard.
And there is no escape - you WILL have to grow up.
Don't be in a rush to settle!
Growing up is hard.
And there is no escape - you WILL have to grow up.
Don't be in a rush to settle!
3. You have time.
When young, the best thing is that you have time.
Time to figure things out.
Time to recover from impacts.
The pressure to figure things out early, is frankly self-inflicted.
When young, the best thing is that you have time.
Time to figure things out.
Time to recover from impacts.
The pressure to figure things out early, is frankly self-inflicted.
4. Set a routine.
A routine doesn't mean waking up early.
Or leading a boring life.
It means building the habit of discipline. Discipline of finishing what you had set out to do, by the time you had promised yourself.
A routine doesn't mean waking up early.
Or leading a boring life.
It means building the habit of discipline. Discipline of finishing what you had set out to do, by the time you had promised yourself.
5. Don't rush into a marriage.
Who and why you decide to spend your life with - is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life.
Don't take (almost) permanent decisions based on your early temporary emotions.
Who and why you decide to spend your life with - is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life.
Don't take (almost) permanent decisions based on your early temporary emotions.
6. You will experience the joy of true love only if you first love yourself.
Else your partner will exhaust themselves trying to convince you that you are capable of love.
Else your partner will exhaust themselves trying to convince you that you are capable of love.
7. You will always be scared of losing what you have, if you got it by luck and never reflected on how did you.
8. Be responsible for your happiness.
If you make other's responsible for your happiness, you are rarely going to be happy.
If you make other's responsible for your happiness, you are rarely going to be happy.
9. Learn what triggers you negatively.
The understanding of what triggers you is an essential input to the rest of your life.
The understanding of what triggers you is an essential input to the rest of your life.
10. Set your boundaries.
Identify the non-negotiables in your life and communicate that to your people.
If you do not respect your boundaries, no one else will.
Identify the non-negotiables in your life and communicate that to your people.
If you do not respect your boundaries, no one else will.
11. Spend time alone.
The toughest person to spend time with is you yourself.
Once you can co-exist with your own thoughts, everyone else becomes easier.
The toughest person to spend time with is you yourself.
Once you can co-exist with your own thoughts, everyone else becomes easier.
12. Don't try to win conversations.
The energy and effort required to do so is massively more than the temporary high you get after winning one.
Learn to let go.
The energy and effort required to do so is massively more than the temporary high you get after winning one.
Learn to let go.
13. Discover religion on your own.
Religion is a personal journey.
Explore the definition and importance of god all on your own.
Religion is a personal journey.
Explore the definition and importance of god all on your own.
14. You need to learn how to be an individual outside of your family.
15. Stop trying to enjoy being around people, if you don't.
If you are comfortable in your own company, that is the best company!
If you are comfortable in your own company, that is the best company!
16. Be okay with being different than everyone else.
You are not them.
They are not you.
Until you aren't at peace with who you are, you will always crave to be someone else.
You are not them.
They are not you.
Until you aren't at peace with who you are, you will always crave to be someone else.
17. If life feels like shit, take the smallest step possible to get you out of the moment you are in.
18. Whatever you are feeling today, will fade away.
No feeling is permanent.
Do not act on them, as if they are.
No feeling is permanent.
Do not act on them, as if they are.
19. Give serendipity a chance.
Most "life-altering" incidents were not planned.
Live life giving luck a chance.
Most "life-altering" incidents were not planned.
Live life giving luck a chance.
20. People will judge you. Let them.
People judge because they want to feel good about themselves.
It has nothing to do with you.
It is their insecurity.
People judge because they want to feel good about themselves.
It has nothing to do with you.
It is their insecurity.
Not all of these will be true for you.
Not all of these will even apply to you.
Consider them, as someone's life experiences being shared.
For you to help build your own experiences.
Not all of these will even apply to you.
Consider them, as someone's life experiences being shared.
For you to help build your own experiences.
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