7 Things men do in their 20s that can screw up the rest of their life.
1. Waste their strength on worthless pursuits
Men will never have more energy and potential strength than in their 20s.
They can use that strength and energy to build something that will last for the rest of their lives.
- Businesses
- Skills
- Knowledge
- Muscle
Men will never have more energy and potential strength than in their 20s.
They can use that strength and energy to build something that will last for the rest of their lives.
- Businesses
- Skills
- Knowledge
- Muscle
Instead, many men waste their strength on video games, binge-watching entertainment, and nights at the bar or club.
"The glory of young men is their strength, but the splendor of old men is their gray hair."
- Proverbs 20:29
"The glory of young men is their strength, but the splendor of old men is their gray hair."
- Proverbs 20:29
You won't have the same energy in your 30s.
So use that strength now
- Learn woodworking, plumbing, etc.
- Go all in on building a business. Use your nights and weekends
- Learn to program and build some apps
- Learn to write
- Learn boxing
- Lift weights
So use that strength now
- Learn woodworking, plumbing, etc.
- Go all in on building a business. Use your nights and weekends
- Learn to program and build some apps
- Learn to write
- Learn boxing
- Lift weights
If you're unsure where to go, find an older man who can help point you in the right direction.
You are supposed to go all out pursuing something when you are young. Temper it with an old man's advice.
Don't waste these years with mindless entertainment and imaginary conquest.
You are supposed to go all out pursuing something when you are young. Temper it with an old man's advice.
Don't waste these years with mindless entertainment and imaginary conquest.
2. Give their strength to women
So much money and energy are wasted chasing women and sleeping around.
Many men spend their entire 20s doing this and have nothing to show for it except medical bills from STDs.
Porn is the most pernicious form of this. It saps you dry.
So much money and energy are wasted chasing women and sleeping around.
Many men spend their entire 20s doing this and have nothing to show for it except medical bills from STDs.
Porn is the most pernicious form of this. It saps you dry.
"Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings."
- Proverbs 31:3
And in the rest of that chapter of Proverbs, you get the picture of the virtuous women that will magnify your strength instead of wasting it.
- Proverbs 31:3
And in the rest of that chapter of Proverbs, you get the picture of the virtuous women that will magnify your strength instead of wasting it.
Don't put the cart before the horse. If you order your life right and then put yourself in the right places, you won't have to chase women.
Quality women will give you hints, and then you can pursue with your eyes wide open, from a position of strength.
Quality women will give you hints, and then you can pursue with your eyes wide open, from a position of strength.
You need to quit porn. Period.
If you need help, check out this proven program. gumroad.com
Stop giving your strength to women. Especially imaginary, pixelated women.
You'll be amazed at what kind of momentum you can build when you stop giving away your strength.
If you need help, check out this proven program. gumroad.com
Stop giving your strength to women. Especially imaginary, pixelated women.
You'll be amazed at what kind of momentum you can build when you stop giving away your strength.
3. Refuse to learn basic social skills
- Look people in the eye
- Smile
- Try and remember their name (repeat it back to them)
- Be curious and ask questions
Too many young men wonder why no one wants to talk to them.
Because all they talk about is themselves.
- Look people in the eye
- Smile
- Try and remember their name (repeat it back to them)
- Be curious and ask questions
Too many young men wonder why no one wants to talk to them.
Because all they talk about is themselves.
Confident people don't have to talk about themselves.
So act like it. Don't try to be right all the time. Avoid arguments.
And again: Be curious and ask questions.
So act like it. Don't try to be right all the time. Avoid arguments.
And again: Be curious and ask questions.
4. Don't take their health seriously
Many men thing they'll be young forever.
They think they will always have their health and vitality.
Until it's gone.
Many men thing they'll be young forever.
They think they will always have their health and vitality.
Until it's gone.
- Get plenty of sleep
- Don't drink too much alcohol
- Get some sun everyday
- Dedicate yourself to at least some type of physical activity, even if it's just walking
- Have a sensible diet. Fast food every day WILL catch up with you, whether you feel it now or not.
- Don't drink too much alcohol
- Get some sun everyday
- Dedicate yourself to at least some type of physical activity, even if it's just walking
- Have a sensible diet. Fast food every day WILL catch up with you, whether you feel it now or not.
5. Don't expand their circle of friends
Men will run with the same friends they had in high school and/or college, and then wonder they never seem to get new opportunities.
Worse: they don't have any friends outside of their job.
And then they lose their job.
Men will run with the same friends they had in high school and/or college, and then wonder they never seem to get new opportunities.
Worse: they don't have any friends outside of their job.
And then they lose their job.
Life is relationships. Meet people outside of work, outside of your normal circles.
Those things you are improving on? There are communities for everything. Get out and meet people.
Or find a church.
Try to have lunch with someone outside of work at least twice a month.
Those things you are improving on? There are communities for everything. Get out and meet people.
Or find a church.
Try to have lunch with someone outside of work at least twice a month.
6. Stay aimless, without a mission.
It's easy to stay aimless when you are doped up with dopamine and entertainment all the time.
That's why this one is next to last.
Men need clarity in order to find their mission.
They need to be able to see that mountain in the distance
It's easy to stay aimless when you are doped up with dopamine and entertainment all the time.
That's why this one is next to last.
Men need clarity in order to find their mission.
They need to be able to see that mountain in the distance
A man's 20s should be used to throw yourself into various pursuits with vigor and vitality.
Find what your are good at.
Find where you are most needed.
Craft a vision of the future that incorporates these things.
Then go after it with all of your strength.
Find what your are good at.
Find where you are most needed.
Craft a vision of the future that incorporates these things.
Then go after it with all of your strength.
Some example missions
- to plant a church
- to become an author
- to build a business
- to start a school
More examples here: foundationfather.com
At the end of your life, what will your name stand for?
Knowing your mission is important for avoiding the final pitfall.
- to plant a church
- to become an author
- to build a business
- to start a school
More examples here: foundationfather.com
At the end of your life, what will your name stand for?
Knowing your mission is important for avoiding the final pitfall.
7. Marry the wrong woman
They fall for a bombshell who happens to a ball-busting career woman.
Or they fall for the first girl who sleeps with them. This is another way to give your strength to women and a reason to keep it in your pants.
They fall for a bombshell who happens to a ball-busting career woman.
Or they fall for the first girl who sleeps with them. This is another way to give your strength to women and a reason to keep it in your pants.
Don't rush to find a wife.
You want to find someone who compliments you. You want to find a girl who will go all-in on YOUR mission.
You probably won't find her at a bar or a club. You probably won't find her at work, either, but it depends.
Where to find her?
You want to find someone who compliments you. You want to find a girl who will go all-in on YOUR mission.
You probably won't find her at a bar or a club. You probably won't find her at work, either, but it depends.
Where to find her?
There is nothing like a good church to help you find a wife.
And its easy to notice the worthy young women. They are the ones who:
- Babysit for other families
- Take meals to the sick and elderly
- Greet people with kindness after services
- Wear modest apparel
And its easy to notice the worthy young women. They are the ones who:
- Babysit for other families
- Take meals to the sick and elderly
- Greet people with kindness after services
- Wear modest apparel
Of course, to be attractive to a woman like that, you need to avoid the rest of the stuff in this list.
Become a man who that kind of woman would find attractive.
Become a man who that kind of woman would find attractive.
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