Shaykh Salek bin Siddina al-Mālikī al-Ashárī, may Allāh preserve him, on the Western influence upon the minds of the Muslims regarding appropriate marriage age for women, and the incorrectness of the current mindset.
He writes:
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم اللهم صل وسلم على سيدنا محمد الامين وءاله وصحبه اجمعين
---- The Intellectual invasion against Muslim women ----
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم اللهم صل وسلم على سيدنا محمد الامين وءاله وصحبه اجمعين
---- The Intellectual invasion against Muslim women ----
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
I was reflecting about the speed of the Western ideological invasion, that it is much faster than if the Muslims were attacked by the Air Force. Twenty, or even ten years ago, I saw Muslim women from all countries getting married very early.
They would already become grandmothers at the age of thirty, and this was absolutely normal. Now I see young people often getting married in their twenties or even much later.
In these last years, I have lived here in the West while visiting Muslim countries every year.
In these last years, I have lived here in the West while visiting Muslim countries every year.
I have witnessed the fire of the West ablaze in the Muslim countries beyond imagination. Imbalanced unnatural Western norms and misguided mentalities have extremely rapidly become accepted in Muslim countries.
It has become condemned by many for a girl to get married at the age of twelve. The norm is that many refuse marriage until the girl is 18, even though the opposite was the norm in the West for a long time.
All of this has made me reflect on how quickly goodness goes away from Muslims. In Muslim countries, women go to public high schools, and they are always using their computers and phones, doing all sorts of immorality and shameless deeds on them as if it is nothing.
As for Muslims here in the West, their situation is horrible beyond expression. If a person talks about the fact that most of the daughters of the prophet ﷺ, some of his wives, and many of the female companions married before 10, they will be offended and reject this fact.
Not only is this blessed example of early marriage proven in the books of authentic hadith, it was prevalent and well-known among the companions and believers; rather, this sunnah remained among the Muslims until just a little while ago.
Despite all that, people will still hesitate and say that this is a matter that needs to be looked into, and this is not appropriate, looking for any excuse to deny this part of the Sunnah.
They are undoubtedly delusional; unable to accept the means to protect chastity and good character and behavior, hesitant to accept the actions of the Messenger of God, may God’s blessings and peace be upon him, his family, and his companions, may God be pleased with them.
They reject all those norms that preserve morality, and in contrast, they fail to see that their norms lead the girls here in the West to start fornication at the age of twelve or even before.
Many women who grow up in this environment delay the concepts of responsibility of women and marriage until their older age. I have seen many of these women in their thirties, even in their forties, and they are not married; their actions and words are exactly like teenage girls.
I said to one of them, “So-and-so, you are like a teenager in your mentality.” She was surprised and shouted, “No way, you wouldn't say that if you saw the teenage girls of today.”
As for such women in their thirties, they believe that they are still young women at the beginning of their lives.
Look at the insanity of this age and its distance from pure human nature.
Look at the insanity of this age and its distance from pure human nature.
Umm Salama, the wife of the prophet ﷺ was in her thirties when he was approaching her for marriage. She said to him, "O Messenger of God, I am an old woman". She was alerting the prophet ﷺ to her age of thirty when he ﷺ at that time was more than fifty.
This one exchange highlights many natural aspects that the Sunnah strengthens, including key differences in how age affects men and women in regard to marriage and aging.
There is a great need for us to look at our reality; perhaps a few of us will have some regret and return to our senses. As for the masses, they are overpowered. As the proverb goes “your love for a thing makes you blind and deaf.”
Ibn Khaldun, may God have mercy on him, said: The pattern of God Almighty in His creation is that the defeated nation begins to follow the nation that defeated them.
This is the reason why the Muslims are unfortunately robbed of their minds in their blind love and following of the west, refusing to see or hear anything contrary to that love.
Written by Salek bin Siddina, and Allah is our protector and helper.
Written by Salek bin Siddina, and Allah is our protector and helper.
Regarding the significance of marriage at the age of twelve for females in the Islamic tradition:
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