How to Make Someone Addicted To You.
- A Dark Thread:
- A Dark Thread:
In the thread below, I got to the point where your partner expresses exclusivity with you and the relationship is starting to get serious. Their addiction to you has begun.
This thread will be about how you could get your victims even more isolated and to rock bottom.
This thread will be about how you could get your victims even more isolated and to rock bottom.
I got to first point out two things:
1. Most of the time, this is not deliberately/ consciously done by the manipulator
2. No relationship is completely one sided. The victim often has an anxious attachment style and is more susceptible + feed off of these techniques.
1. Most of the time, this is not deliberately/ consciously done by the manipulator
2. No relationship is completely one sided. The victim often has an anxious attachment style and is more susceptible + feed off of these techniques.
When your victim expressed exclusivity and has fallen deeply in love, you also have to first express a similar sentiment so that they get even more invested and isolated.
The most common ‘technique’ I see in these people is being overprotective.
The most common ‘technique’ I see in these people is being overprotective.
When your victim invites you to a place with other people, you view them as enemies to be wary of.
When your victim talks to someone of the opposite sex, you tell the person to “not touch your girl” and might even punish your victim with silence to emphasize the point.
When your victim talks to someone of the opposite sex, you tell the person to “not touch your girl” and might even punish your victim with silence to emphasize the point.
When your victim apologizes (from guilt and fear that you’d leave), you would say, in a highly affectionate way:
"I don’t want you to be taken away from me" or something like “you can only be mine”, “I hate it when other people look at you”, etc.
"I don’t want you to be taken away from me" or something like “you can only be mine”, “I hate it when other people look at you”, etc.
To the victim, it feels great to be cherished and loved. He/she loves that there’s someone clearly jealous because of them for once in their lives.
It also AFFIRMS that they'll never leave you, which breeds guilt the next time they do something similar & reinforces isolation.
It also AFFIRMS that they'll never leave you, which breeds guilt the next time they do something similar & reinforces isolation.
You're also using a Pavlovian strategy here.
Your victims have low self-esteem so you reward and punish through affection and distance.
Every time they act “accordingly”, you reward them with affection. When they don’t, you punish them with coldness. Quite simple.
Your victims have low self-esteem so you reward and punish through affection and distance.
Every time they act “accordingly”, you reward them with affection. When they don’t, you punish them with coldness. Quite simple.
With enough repetition, the victim will immediately associate their own “bad” behavior with emotional distance/ coldness, which triggers guilt and shame.
At first, it might take a while for them to apologize, but with this conditioning, it could get to a point where it's instant
At first, it might take a while for them to apologize, but with this conditioning, it could get to a point where it's instant
They will actively avoid doing what you hate and do more of what you love.
Which gets them even more invested and addicted to you.
The more invested they are, the harder it is to break away. Sunk cost fallacy could work EVEN IF you are aware of it, and most people aren't.
Which gets them even more invested and addicted to you.
The more invested they are, the harder it is to break away. Sunk cost fallacy could work EVEN IF you are aware of it, and most people aren't.
Now you're months or years in.
If you want to make them resent the fuck out of you, just go schizo and become abusive as fuck.
If you want them to fall into depression and suicidal thoughts (which is much worse, especially if you do this consciously), you change gradually.
If you want to make them resent the fuck out of you, just go schizo and become abusive as fuck.
If you want them to fall into depression and suicidal thoughts (which is much worse, especially if you do this consciously), you change gradually.
It’s good to start detaching or displaying annoyance/ disinterest after starting an argument.
Some people will actively get caught cheating. (e.g. leaving condom wraps behind, talking about the lover, etc.)
Some people will actively get caught cheating. (e.g. leaving condom wraps behind, talking about the lover, etc.)
This is highly damaging and could get the victim to cut ties immediately due to self-respect (everyone has a baseline).
Especially in Asian countries (where I’m from), cheating is almost not tolerated at all.
Especially in Asian countries (where I’m from), cheating is almost not tolerated at all.
People are conditioned by society to end the relationship as soon as they know their partner cheated, no matter what.
But in Western countries or if you really completely isolated your victim to a one-person social circle (you), then the victim is royally fucked.
But in Western countries or if you really completely isolated your victim to a one-person social circle (you), then the victim is royally fucked.
And honestly, you should lock yourself up.
Other techniques could be exploiting their insecurity. When watching a show together, you point out that someone who looks opposite to your victim looks ‘so hot”.
Other techniques could be exploiting their insecurity. When watching a show together, you point out that someone who looks opposite to your victim looks ‘so hot”.
Especially if your victim is insecure about some features of their physical appearance (e.g. thin lips), saying that an actress with very full lips is extremely hot will make them feel even smaller.
Same goes for cheating with a person that has what your victim wants.
Same goes for cheating with a person that has what your victim wants.
Start more arguments as time goes on. It’s still good to display affection once in a while, but it is simply to feed them hope to continue.
In the period of gradual downfall, the girl is forced to remember the “old days”. With the constant remembering and imagination of the
In the period of gradual downfall, the girl is forced to remember the “old days”. With the constant remembering and imagination of the
imageries of a perfect relationship (e.g. laughter, holding hands, cuddling, etc.), the victim may begin to develop false memories.
All the things you did in the beginning (fairytale-like dates, being a caring romantic, etc.) creates a strong contrast with the current state...
All the things you did in the beginning (fairytale-like dates, being a caring romantic, etc.) creates a strong contrast with the current state...
Which further heightens the desire of the victim to go back to what things were.
They develop a need to make their relationship return to the state it was previously, and to ‘save’ or ‘fix’ their manipulator.
Which is only an illusion.
They develop a need to make their relationship return to the state it was previously, and to ‘save’ or ‘fix’ their manipulator.
Which is only an illusion.
Our memory fools us. We believe that things that were good are great and things that were great are perfect. That is the Rosy Retrospection bias.
As the Romans said: memoria praeteritorum bonorum, or “the past is always well remembered.”
As the Romans said: memoria praeteritorum bonorum, or “the past is always well remembered.”
The apparent flaw in the current state (which you created) is the cause of the desire to go back to what things were (which is seen to be perfect).
Without the apparent flaw, the image of perfection could not be constructed. And they would not try their best to 'fix'.
Without the apparent flaw, the image of perfection could not be constructed. And they would not try their best to 'fix'.
The more abusive you become, the stronger their desire to go back to what things were.
If you're able to show your past self once in a while, they will never stop chasing you and continue their emotional investment until you go back to your former self.
Which is not happening.
If you're able to show your past self once in a while, they will never stop chasing you and continue their emotional investment until you go back to your former self.
Which is not happening.
By doing the things I’ve mentioned, and terminating the relationship, you’ve basically forced them into a state of hopelessness and depression.
In real life, both of the victims I know aren’t that fucked.
They managed to maintain a small social circle and had good friends.
In real life, both of the victims I know aren’t that fucked.
They managed to maintain a small social circle and had good friends.
That obviously didn't stop them from facing serious symptoms of withdrawal:
Being clinically depressed and attempting self-harm.
If they had cut off all their ties, I wouldn’t be surprised if they tried to kill themselves.
Being clinically depressed and attempting self-harm.
If they had cut off all their ties, I wouldn’t be surprised if they tried to kill themselves.
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Was a long one but that's it for me.
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