Been reading some @jerr_rrej threads today. Great account. I recommend him.
I want to CHALLENGE THIS ONE:
> Masculine frame is emotional distance
It is TRUE that we want to "keep her wanting more." But it's a misunderstanding that we need to actively "deny" her. Bad energy.
I want to CHALLENGE THIS ONE:
> Masculine frame is emotional distance
It is TRUE that we want to "keep her wanting more." But it's a misunderstanding that we need to actively "deny" her. Bad energy.
>keeps out of reach what she most wants the most
>we measure out and deny
There is an obvious ugliness here that's unnecessary.
YES, we want to "keep her wanting more." We do that by being excellent (good energy), and by BEING BUSY with life.
The focus on "denial" is small.
>we measure out and deny
There is an obvious ugliness here that's unnecessary.
YES, we want to "keep her wanting more." We do that by being excellent (good energy), and by BEING BUSY with life.
The focus on "denial" is small.
Jerr is right that when we "have too much" we get satiated & lose interest. Men that are "too available" are like pets - hard to respect, hard to desire.
But a man can "give her everything" and then BE GONE (busy with life). That KEEPS HER WANTING MORE.
But a man can "give her everything" and then BE GONE (busy with life). That KEEPS HER WANTING MORE.
The DISTANCE isn't about choking her off from your emotions (which is to be "shallow," to miss opportunities to go deep).
You can flood her with what she wants. Take her deeper and then "get back to work."
She "wonders" about you, because you have a full life are "gone" often.
You can flood her with what she wants. Take her deeper and then "get back to work."
She "wonders" about you, because you have a full life are "gone" often.
The ENERGY difference is totally important.
You are SAYING YES TO HER. And she can feel it. No "games."
And you are also SAYING YES TO WORK, to sport, to male friendships, to your adventures.
A great man gets to say YES a lot. He doesn't need to intentionally create scarcity.
You are SAYING YES TO HER. And she can feel it. No "games."
And you are also SAYING YES TO WORK, to sport, to male friendships, to your adventures.
A great man gets to say YES a lot. He doesn't need to intentionally create scarcity.
>He becomes distant and closed
>This is masculine frame
A women can't always get what she wants. That's normal. Proper men are busy, have other goals. That's healthy for everyone.
But to intentionally be distance/closed, is about childishly flexing power, not being masculine.
>This is masculine frame
A women can't always get what she wants. That's normal. Proper men are busy, have other goals. That's healthy for everyone.
But to intentionally be distance/closed, is about childishly flexing power, not being masculine.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE:
"Women love drama." That is also true. There is a "fullness" of drama that women like.
So should men inject drama into their rels? No. That is chaos & BS.
A BOLD BUSY LIFE will provide plenty of natural drama for the rel, it doesn't need to be "manufactured."
"Women love drama." That is also true. There is a "fullness" of drama that women like.
So should men inject drama into their rels? No. That is chaos & BS.
A BOLD BUSY LIFE will provide plenty of natural drama for the rel, it doesn't need to be "manufactured."
In both cases (the need for distance/for some drama), a MASCULINE man doesn't need to play games. A masculine man shouldn't have the time/interest for that.
He can say YES to his woman, give to her. And say yes to life, to go lead/create. He can PUT HIS FOCUS ON HIGHER AIMS.
He can say YES to his woman, give to her. And say yes to life, to go lead/create. He can PUT HIS FOCUS ON HIGHER AIMS.
Loading suggestions...