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How to control the frame of a conversation:
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One of the best ways to open a discussion is with a short framing.
This โsetsโ the sceneโ, and explains what you want to discuss.
It will prevent you from jumping in with both feet.
This โsetsโ the sceneโ, and explains what you want to discuss.
It will prevent you from jumping in with both feet.
This is how you control the outcome of the conversation.
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Think about what a frame around a picture does.
It draws your attention to it.
It highlights its main features and colours.
It separates the picture from its surroundings.
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Think about what a frame around a picture does.
It draws your attention to it.
It highlights its main features and colours.
It separates the picture from its surroundings.
A frame does the same to a conversation.
Developing and delivering a short framing statement will help you in 3 ways:
1. You are going to be sure that you have analyzed and organized your information and thoughts.
Developing and delivering a short framing statement will help you in 3 ways:
1. You are going to be sure that you have analyzed and organized your information and thoughts.
2. You will clarify your purpose and how you will go about achieving it.
3. You will be able to set the scene for a favorable discussion.
Controlling the frame of a conversation comes with a great deal of power.
3. You will be able to set the scene for a favorable discussion.
Controlling the frame of a conversation comes with a great deal of power.
When I talk about controlling the frame of a conversation; the word control can seem somewhat intense.
But thatโs not what people might imagine.
But thatโs not what people might imagine.
That creates opposition and is completely useless.
The aim is to make them play in your field.
Where you have the advantage.
Always be asking questions
The aim is to make them play in your field.
Where you have the advantage.
Always be asking questions
Asking questions will give you full control of a conversation.
Control here isnโt defined as dictating people.
Your framing is not to push directly your own opinions.
Control here isnโt defined as dictating people.
Your framing is not to push directly your own opinions.
The reason is that you are throwing out a topic and leading the person to respond to your own thoughts.
Some people may not respond to your questions.
Some people may not respond to your questions.
In this case, validating and redirecting is the way to go with your conversation
We will discuss this skill more in-depth later in this thread.
We will discuss this skill more in-depth later in this thread.
In a spontaneous conversation, your control will come from a quick assessment of your conversation goals.
Use those goals to construct questions that will lead the conversation to a place you want to go.
Use those goals to construct questions that will lead the conversation to a place you want to go.
Validation and redirection explained:
This skill will come in handy as you are weaving together the framework of the overall conversation.
aka. How to win a framing battle.
Letโs imagine you are in a middle of a conversation.
This skill will come in handy as you are weaving together the framework of the overall conversation.
aka. How to win a framing battle.
Letโs imagine you are in a middle of a conversation.
But the other person seems to keep changing topics, or trying to control the frame.
What do you do?
In this situation, you do not want to ignore what they are saying.
You will come off as:
Arrogant.
Uncaring.
Uninterested.
Thus, threatning.
What do you do?
In this situation, you do not want to ignore what they are saying.
You will come off as:
Arrogant.
Uncaring.
Uninterested.
Thus, threatning.
This is why validation is key.
Validate what the other person just said:
"Yes, I see where that can be really important, John."
Then follow this validation with a redirective statement.
This brings the person back to what you were discussing.
Validate what the other person just said:
"Yes, I see where that can be really important, John."
Then follow this validation with a redirective statement.
This brings the person back to what you were discussing.
It does so in a respectful, but direct manner.
Later on, in the conversation.
Bring up something they said earlier.
See if you can tie it together with your own conversation points.
This will continue the sense that you care about their points.
Later on, in the conversation.
Bring up something they said earlier.
See if you can tie it together with your own conversation points.
This will continue the sense that you care about their points.
This will highlight that you listened and took in what they said.
By referring back to that point, while also molding the conversation points together.
By referring back to that point, while also molding the conversation points together.
By doing so, you will begin to develop a working relationship.
All the while, you are controlling the overall frame of the conversation.
All the while, you are controlling the overall frame of the conversation.
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