How to read people’s minds
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A thread
Cold reading is the art of grasping the underlying thoughts of someone without them expressing them explicitly.
It consists of a set of techniques that helps read and uncover what someone keeps for themselves.
It consists of a set of techniques that helps read and uncover what someone keeps for themselves.
Disclaimer: This is not some psychic/magician trick that you use to impress people. The techniques described in this thread focus on helping understand people’s motivations and behavior while strengthening interpersonal relationships.
This thread will cover basic techniques of cold reading and a few ways to practice them.
Let’s start.
Let’s start.
1- Developing Empathy:
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Empathy is a skill not a virtue.
But that’s not out topic today; simply an idea to keep in mind when practicing cold reading.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Empathy is a skill not a virtue.
But that’s not out topic today; simply an idea to keep in mind when practicing cold reading.
Do not get your emotions get in the way, you are simply “reading” not “writing” (hopefully you get the image here).
Empathy is the core building block of cold reading.
Empathy is the core building block of cold reading.
The ability to understand emotions and grasp how different people express similar emotions is the one skill that allows you to read people’s minds.
The best part: You do this every single day.
The best part: You do this every single day.
Unless you’re mentally and emotionally unstable; you are constantly practicing empathy in your daily life through every single interaction you have.
We all, to different extents, adapt our speech depending on our interlocutor.
We all, to different extents, adapt our speech depending on our interlocutor.
That is a direct consequence of practicing empathy and situational awareness.
The trick is to consciously do it.
But there is more to it.
Empathy is the core of cold reading because of one very simple reason:
The thoughts of a human being are often driven by emotions.
The trick is to consciously do it.
But there is more to it.
Empathy is the core of cold reading because of one very simple reason:
The thoughts of a human being are often driven by emotions.
While they can hide their thoughts, there will always be an expression of the underlying emotion.
That’s what you should spot then put the pieces of your puzzle together to fully understand the thoughts behind.
In order to do that, we’ll use the next two parts.
That’s what you should spot then put the pieces of your puzzle together to fully understand the thoughts behind.
In order to do that, we’ll use the next two parts.
2- Reading Body Language:
Again, this is not only about isolated micro-expressions.
Body language has a lot more aspects than a rictus or an angry face.
Reading body language is an ability everyone should have.
Again, this is not only about isolated micro-expressions.
Body language has a lot more aspects than a rictus or an angry face.
Reading body language is an ability everyone should have.
Remember: everyone talks body language, very few people understand it.
Developing this ability unlocks a new level of communication.
Oftentimes, a level of communication that your interlocutor does not understand.
Developing this ability unlocks a new level of communication.
Oftentimes, a level of communication that your interlocutor does not understand.
As such, they will send body language messages that express ideas they might be trying to conceal.
As when someone says that they’re not angry but express negative body language for example.
As when someone says that they’re not angry but express negative body language for example.
3- Verbal Communication:
Big fact: People say a lot more than they want.
Another big fact: Many of you are not listening.
Verbal communication is an ocean of information and an endless well of concepts.
But I want you to focus on just two: Tone & Word choice.
Big fact: People say a lot more than they want.
Another big fact: Many of you are not listening.
Verbal communication is an ocean of information and an endless well of concepts.
But I want you to focus on just two: Tone & Word choice.
For you to properly practice cold reading, you should learn nuances of words and what different tones express as emotions.
With an understanding of voice tones and having a large vocabulary, you can learn to identify the intentions behind what is being said.
With an understanding of voice tones and having a large vocabulary, you can learn to identify the intentions behind what is being said.
For example, using “furious” instead of “angry” shows that the person is insisting on the emotion described. The former being a stronger nuance than the latter, this alone can show you the emotional charge of the speech.
Of course, details can change from one person to another.
But the rules mentioned in this thread are the building blocks of becoming a better people reader.
This is one of the most important social skills you will ever need.
But the rules mentioned in this thread are the building blocks of becoming a better people reader.
This is one of the most important social skills you will ever need.
Developing the ability to understand people on a deeper level allows you to tell them what they want to hear so that you can at a later stage influence their behavior (for good or bad; that is up to you and none of my business).
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