Don't marry for interests, marry for values.
Interests come & go, values are more difficult to change. You are allowed to have different interests than your spouse, but it's common values that bring you together, it's the foundation of any relationship.
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Interests come & go, values are more difficult to change. You are allowed to have different interests than your spouse, but it's common values that bring you together, it's the foundation of any relationship.
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We get the misperception that interests are more important because of the modern day dating lifestyle which maximizes having fun with the other person until you don't.
If you have common values (traditions, norms, ethics, faith) then your lifestyle as a couple will have...
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If you have common values (traditions, norms, ethics, faith) then your lifestyle as a couple will have...
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...more consistency & less major disruptions.
For example if your understanding of trust as a value, differs then interactions with those outside of the relationship can breed suspicion & anxiety, leading to fights & emotional distancing.
Whereas if you like watching...
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For example if your understanding of trust as a value, differs then interactions with those outside of the relationship can breed suspicion & anxiety, leading to fights & emotional distancing.
Whereas if you like watching...
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... YouTube often but your spouse does not, it's something they can get interested in occasionally, or you can lose interest in it yourself, but that does not affect how much you love your spouse, no issues of mistrust or suspicion here.
We need to ask better questions...
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We need to ask better questions...
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...to potential spouses. Instead of "what do you like to do", ask meaningful questions like, "how does trust in a relationship function for you, can you give me examples of how do you trust, who you trust & why?".
"What made you lose trust in a close friend?"
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"What made you lose trust in a close friend?"
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