Finding the right life partner is the most important decision of your life.
Unfortunately most of us suck at it.
15 things everyone should know before they pick a life partner:
Unfortunately most of us suck at it.
15 things everyone should know before they pick a life partner:
Pick someone who enjoys spending time on the same things as you.
Otherwise spending time together is going to feel like a chore after a while.
Otherwise spending time together is going to feel like a chore after a while.
A lot of anxiety in dating comes from engaging in ambiguous relationships.
If you like someone, label that shit.
If you like someone, label that shit.
Don't spend a day dating someone you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with.
Instead of finding the one, become the one.
Over a long enough period you attract what you are.
Over a long enough period you attract what you are.
Opposites attract but they don't last.
Find someone that aligns with you on the important stuff.
Find someone that aligns with you on the important stuff.
Sarcasm and passive aggressiveness are the quickest way to fuck up your relationship.
Most people confuse the rush of oxytocin in the first few months of a relationship for love.
Oxytocin stabilizes after a few months, leading a lot of people to think that the love is gone (it hasn't).
Oxytocin stabilizes after a few months, leading a lot of people to think that the love is gone (it hasn't).
Negotiating boredom and spending a thousand boring Wednesdays together is part of building a successful relationship.
Does the person you like have healthy relationships with their family, friends, exs and colleagues?
If there's a pattern of unhealthy relationships, this person may not be capable of building lasting relationships.
If there's a pattern of unhealthy relationships, this person may not be capable of building lasting relationships.
If friends and family consistently tell you something isn't right with your partner, take it very seriously.
People outside the relationship can often see things people inside the relationship are blind to.
People outside the relationship can often see things people inside the relationship are blind to.
Discuss and set expectations early and clearly.
It's almost impossible to change the dynamic of a relationship after the first few months.
It's almost impossible to change the dynamic of a relationship after the first few months.
Family is the most meaningful part of life.
People will tell you to focus on your career and your finances first - even if that means moving away from your home, postponing marriage, and having a smaller family.
Disregard this nonsense completely. Start prioritizing family.
People will tell you to focus on your career and your finances first - even if that means moving away from your home, postponing marriage, and having a smaller family.
Disregard this nonsense completely. Start prioritizing family.
Trust and the ability to resolve conflict are the strongest predictors of long-term relationship success.
It takes years to build trust and one stupid mistake to destroy it.
Avoiding difficult conversations feels easy in the short run, but it always yields negative consequences for the relationship down the line.
Good things take time and hard work.
Good things take time and hard work.
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