The less loved a woman is, the more masculine she becomes, and the less respected a man is, the more feminine he becomes.
The masculine/feminine polarity determines how well a relationship survives longterm. Men need respect as much as women need love. But today, we see lots of identity issues and dissatisfactions in relationships because these needs are not met.
Men in the beginning try to give their woman everything they ask for. But like every repeated behavior, it sticks.
She gets comfortable always getting what she wants (having things done her way every time)
She gets comfortable always getting what she wants (having things done her way every time)
His every decisions gets refuted when it doesn't align with what the woman wants. Thus making him more indecisive and unsure of his leadership.
And having no authority to surrender her decision-making to, she develops masculine traits like assertiveness and independence.
And the man wanting to let peace reign takes on a passive role.
This may seem like a peaceful relationship but will take a toll on the woman longterm
And the man wanting to let peace reign takes on a passive role.
This may seem like a peaceful relationship but will take a toll on the woman longterm
Men won't easily take on the feminine role while she handles her newly acquired masculine role. This brings an imbalance.
He becomes the not-so-useful family member whose only use is making money, running errands, and making rules that no one listens to - as we've seen in movies
He becomes the not-so-useful family member whose only use is making money, running errands, and making rules that no one listens to - as we've seen in movies
This dynamic builds up resentments in both of them. With the woman feeling like she does so much and isn't getting loved. And the man feeling disrespected for his lack of respect, usefulness and appreciation.
This is how cheating and divorces come in.
This is how cheating and divorces come in.
Living by the "happy wife, happy life" mantra is also part of the problem.
We need to understand that loving someone isn't about giving them everything they ask for.
It's delaying gratification and understanding what's the best for them and providing it.
We need to understand that loving someone isn't about giving them everything they ask for.
It's delaying gratification and understanding what's the best for them and providing it.
Amongst the definitions of love stated in the book of Corinthians 13:4, one characteristic that brings these points together is, "Love protects."
You're not protecting your woman if you let her take on your job as the masculine or letting her always have her way.
You're not protecting your woman if you let her take on your job as the masculine or letting her always have her way.
As the masculine, you're the chief servant. It's not a position you lord over your partner.
It comes with heavy responsibilities that earn you the respect of whoever you serve when done properly.
It comes with heavy responsibilities that earn you the respect of whoever you serve when done properly.
A healthy dynamic starts with the man knowing and performing his roles as the masculine.
And for the woman trusting her man to perform these roles without always intruding.
And for the woman trusting her man to perform these roles without always intruding.
The masculine should be assertive and selfless so that his decisions would always reflect what's best for his family. And firm enough to stick with them.
And when his woman understands this, she finds safety and trust in his leadership. And her femininity flourishes.
And when his woman understands this, she finds safety and trust in his leadership. And her femininity flourishes.
This is the basis of love and respect.
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