Once, I dated a babe who would reply to DMs of toasters, flirt on the TL or post thirst traps whenever we had a quarrel. The intention was to elicit a reaction from me which could be wrongly interpreted as insecurity because of the attention she was getting from low quality men.

Resisting the urge to comment was hard until I realized what her game was and adjusted accordingly. Those tactics lost efficacy eventually. Any woman who uses the men in her DMs as a yardstick for how you treat her should be discarded. It's a game you must ardently refuse to play

You should treat your woman right because she's your woman not because you're scared other men will take her from you. As much as you love her, if her eyes start to wander you must be ready to let her go. You should never be in competition for affection.

Her loyalty and respect are the trade offs for your love; both are non negotiable. The minute you realise you're getting shortchanged, that's your cue to leave. You must always maintain your frame by resisting such manipulation.