If you have kids, you've seen the movie Inside Out.
It's one of Pixar's most brilliant efforts. It has a lot of key insights into our psychology that are backed by science.
But it has one big key to your mental makeup I bet you missed... ๐งต
It's one of Pixar's most brilliant efforts. It has a lot of key insights into our psychology that are backed by science.
But it has one big key to your mental makeup I bet you missed... ๐งต
The story is about a tween, Riley, whose family has just moved and upended her entire life.
We get to see the inner workings of her mind through her primary emotions, in the characters of Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger, and Disgust.
But, importantly, Joy (yellow) is in charge.
We get to see the inner workings of her mind through her primary emotions, in the characters of Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger, and Disgust.
But, importantly, Joy (yellow) is in charge.
Joy is 'running the board' throughout most of the movie, she's clearly Riley's primary emotion. And this is great, it means Riley is generally happy.
But when we go inside Riley's parents, we get a much darker view, and we see how most people are wired.
But when we go inside Riley's parents, we get a much darker view, and we see how most people are wired.
Inside mom's 'head'-quarters, it's not the bubbly Joy character who's in control. It's Sadness.
Who hurt you, Riley's mom?
But when we crack open dad's brain it gets really interesting...
Who hurt you, Riley's mom?
But when we crack open dad's brain it gets really interesting...
See inside dad, Anger is in charge. In fact after a brief interaction with a clearly-struggling Riley, his first reaction is anger.
Now this doesn't mean Dad stomps around yelling at everyone all day. It just means when confronted with new or troubling information...
Now this doesn't mean Dad stomps around yelling at everyone all day. It just means when confronted with new or troubling information...
his default is to react with anger.
This is how I lived - for years. It's how I dealt with family, customers, teammates, everyone.
To be clear, most people would never have known this was the case. I got REALLY good at hiding it. I buried that...
This is how I lived - for years. It's how I dealt with family, customers, teammates, everyone.
To be clear, most people would never have known this was the case. I got REALLY good at hiding it. I buried that...
ish wayyyyyy down and put on a smile. My mom always called it my Irish temper, and for years I just accepted it.
It affected what kind of dad I was - I did a lot of yelling at times. If bad things happened..
It affected what kind of dad I was - I did a lot of yelling at times. If bad things happened..
I chocked it up to the fact that "the world was full of a-holes", I thought other angry people deserved a "piece of my mind".
I was thisclose to many, many road rage incidents. Revenge fantasies controlled my idle mind. Slowly though I was able to let go of much of this anger...
I was thisclose to many, many road rage incidents. Revenge fantasies controlled my idle mind. Slowly though I was able to let go of much of this anger...
How? Well age and maturity certainly help. I also let go of some triggers: online arguments, certain types of alcohol, traffic interactions.
Psychedelics like MDMA and psilocybin helped a lot too. They opened my mind to see this emotional struggle in others.
And that led to...
Psychedelics like MDMA and psilocybin helped a lot too. They opened my mind to see this emotional struggle in others.
And that led to...
The simple breakthrough that - if I was struggling with this, certainly *everyone* else was too.
If I was controlled by my anger, then others were too. And, wow, some people are controlled by their fear and sadness. Sad.
So...
If I was controlled by my anger, then others were too. And, wow, some people are controlled by their fear and sadness. Sad.
So...
Don't all those people deserve a little mercy?
Don't we all?
Now I'm not...
Don't we all?
Now I'm not...
perfect by any stretch. I still 'go off' occasionally when anger takes the wheel.
But it happens far less often. I try to react with empathy now. And I am happy to say that Joy runs the show most of the time.
Ok so...
But it happens far less often. I try to react with empathy now. And I am happy to say that Joy runs the show most of the time.
Ok so...
Feel free to roast me for my Disney-movie psychology lesson, but just know that I know you struggle at times. I know it's hard fighting these emotions in your mind.
Just know everyone else is too. Your craziness is perfectly normal.
Just know everyone else is too. Your craziness is perfectly normal.
There is a way out though.
I'll be talking a lot more about this and a new venture where we'll try to help you get these same breakthroughs. Make sure you're following @krissbergtweets .
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I'll be talking a lot more about this and a new venture where we'll try to help you get these same breakthroughs. Make sure you're following @krissbergtweets .
And RT this please, I bet you have some followers that struggle with this too...
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