The relationship with your woman, (one you're married to or dating), should be more like that of a Father and his daughter. You treat her like a child, one given you to take charge of her. You lead and make firm decisions. She respects it, and listen to you.

Whatever you want, and how you want it is communicated to her in a firm manner, with fewer words. Read that again. It is communicated to her. Not argued with her. Not complained to her. Nor whine to her like a baby. Where you talk with emotions and not taken seriously.

You communicate like a Man. Calm, firm and assertive, maybe with a touch of humor and tease. You're not afraid to state what you want and how. She's submissive and there to please you. Her obedience is rewarded with your love and attention. What she wants. Both are happy.

If there's a thing or person she's unwilling to do away it, which is unsatisfying to you, you give an option to choose between it, the person or you. You don't force, or overly worry. "If you want me to take you seriously and regard you, you do what I want".

If she refuses or cross the set boundaries, on the account you seize your love and withdraw your attention. If she persists, that should put an end to the rship. She doesn't rate and desire you. No respect either. Not the kind of woman you should be with.