There’s a pandemic of maganin karfi in Arewa. You’d see that before a woman is told to be dutiful to her husband and how to take care of her family, they’ll carry her to one place in the name of “preparing her” for marital life. And that’s not all, they’ll still send her with
Other magunguna. Wani irin hauka ne wannan?
What kind of message are we sending to newly married couples? That marriage is just about this?
Similarly, men are prepared too. Saw a guy advertising his wears for about to be married men to start taking 2 weeks to their marriage.
What kind of message are we sending to newly married couples? That marriage is just about this?
Similarly, men are prepared too. Saw a guy advertising his wears for about to be married men to start taking 2 weeks to their marriage.
His brothers and friends would also give him their own versions of magungunan karfi all in the name of making a “first impression”. He’s not taught how to be patient with his wife, how to lead and become a man, no, Kawai maganin karfi.
Months or years after the marriage and the
Months or years after the marriage and the
Zeal and fervor to which they married is gone, the marriage dies, why? Because they weren’t taught any better.
This is over sexualization has ripple effects.
First off if none of them can’t cope or one of them is tired, the other is driven to seek pleasure outside. Either the man
This is over sexualization has ripple effects.
First off if none of them can’t cope or one of them is tired, the other is driven to seek pleasure outside. Either the man
Or the woman. What happens then? Disease is spread to the other innocent partner.
If they divorce, due to societal stigmatization, we have women who can’t keep it together and men who see divorcees as cheap ways of getting pleasure. Zina is rampant then.
But that’s not all.
If they divorce, due to societal stigmatization, we have women who can’t keep it together and men who see divorcees as cheap ways of getting pleasure. Zina is rampant then.
But that’s not all.
Yet again due to societal failure, we have children who stay with their mother having an irresponsible father who doesn’t cater for them. While the woman is forced into a life of sin as a desperate last resort, we have children who are paying attention to the movements of their
Mother, trust me, anyone who is unfortunate to have a mother that does runs to feed her family knows exactly what his mother is doing. So the boys see it as a way of life while the girls see runs as a source of income. This is why you’d hardly find such a woman without at least
One of her daughters engaging in the same trade. Isn’t this a catastrophe?
Has the home & moral fabric of the society not been broken by this?
The man, encouraged by society does as he pleases, further destroying other families and the society at large. Be it a married woman
Has the home & moral fabric of the society not been broken by this?
The man, encouraged by society does as he pleases, further destroying other families and the society at large. Be it a married woman
He follows, destroys her marriage and breaks her home, or a divorced or widowed woman he follows, destroying her family, her reputation and the lives of her children. His family is also destroyed in the process, inflicts his wife with diseases or hurt, destroy the moral fabric
Of his children because they too see what their father is doing and they learn.
If we’re being honest with ourselves, newly married couples have absolutely no business remotely thinking about magunguna, may zasuyi dashi when the assumption is that they’re both unexperienced?
If we’re being honest with ourselves, newly married couples have absolutely no business remotely thinking about magunguna, may zasuyi dashi when the assumption is that they’re both unexperienced?
Yakamata mu duba fa. Arewa is bedeviled with uncountable problems that we should be more focused on. Not this. We should leave this to nature and individual decisions of people when They’re already married, not before.
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