Romance is primarily a male undertaking. From the wooing process to relationship to marriage. It's mostly a man giving and a woman receiving venture which is why if you're going to make sacrifices for any woman, the least she can give you is respect, peace and submission.
Rude loudmouths who lack self awareness and are always combative for whatever reason should be dropped immediately. They will never appreciate your sacrifice and worse still, they will justify their bad behaviour by projecting it on you.
Even babes that like you expect you to carry on the wooing after they say hi. They feel their mediocre "hi" is sufficient and they've done enough. Na why I no dey reply dms. I don't have strength to go through the mating dance/shakara with someone I already know is feeling me.
Even down to requirements, a romantic man is part of the list. I've never seen "romantic" on a man's list. Most women are incapable of showing romance. The big gestures you see online are from men to women. I can count the ones I've seen from women since the day I joined Twitter.
Men don't add it because they'll never see it happen. Is it any wonder women's primary "love language" is gifts? They know say you go buy and if you don't one bingo will. A win-win by all standards. They're unapologetic about this so men should emulate this when vetting.
Your provision, love, support, service, protection should be reserved for a woman whose respect and desire for you far outweighs her natural capacity for emotional tantrums. This is what keeps her tethered when the urge to move mad comes (trust me, it will).
Men give love, women expect love and that's the way it's going to be forever.
There will be replies to my tweet from some women saying how much they loved men and did one or twos but still got wronged. I say to those women, that's the everyday experience for every man
There will be replies to my tweet from some women saying how much they loved men and did one or twos but still got wronged. I say to those women, that's the everyday experience for every man
We still have to go through the process over and over. You do it once, get burned and retire. You don't have to chase, men do. It takes a lot of mental strength to start things afresh despite getting burned severally. It's a struggle most women would never know.
So appreciate that man that cares for you; who gives you his money that you don't value because you think you deserve more;Who goes out of his way to make your life easier but you discount because you're so self absorbed and think the world revolves around you.
Tell him you see him and his efforts and lose that air of entitlement. Buy him nice stuff too, he deserves them. He will be motivated to do more. Appreciation goes a long way.
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