Alexander
Alexander

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Women view sexually promiscuous men quite negatively.
Perhaps contrary to social narratives of male promiscuity being good.
psycnet.apa.org
These are the kinds of questions used on the Social Distancing Scale. Actual Q's from this study.
Basically, do you want this kind of person around you or in your community.
Similar finding here:
Women judged promiscuous men even more negatively than men judged promiscuous women.
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
For men and women, opposite-sex attractiveness decreases after 2-3 sexual partners.
Men were even slightly more forgiving than women.
psychologytoday.com
"Participants evaluated highly sexually active female targets more positively than their male counterparts when the targets were either attractive and had a pleasant personality, or were unattractive and had an unpleasant personality."
link.springer.com
All of this is related to what are called "sexual double standards" (SDS) in the literature. Basically, that sexual behaviors viewed positively for men are viewed negatively for women.
But actually - both genders seem to view promiscuity in the opposite sex negatively.
SDS might be more of a within-sex phenomenon. Men view their own promiscuity positively and view female promiscuity negatively.
This doesn't seem to be quite as consistent for women, who are more likely to view both male and female promiscuity negatively.
This is also consistent with women policing and punishing female promiscuity more than men do.
sciencedirect.com
And one of the major findings of Joyce Benenson's work - that female intrasexual competition from late adolescence to adulthood is highly focused on denigrating the sexual reputation of other women.
There seems to be a narrative in PUA/Red Pill communities that women view male promiscuity positively. That it signals value ("spinning plates"), acts upon pre-selection, etc.
You might actually expect the opposite if you approach it from an evolutionary point of view.
Both genders have a very strong incentive to secure the faithfulness of a partner, select loyal partners, and avoid high-risk mates.
Every additional partner amounts to divided attention, resources, protection, etc.
Every additional partner represents a new risk of abandonment and mate switching.
Evolutionary pressures in humans have been quite strong for monogamous pair bonds.
Aversion to promiscuity (and sexual taboos in general) is also closely related to disgust sensitivity.
And women have a much higher disgust sensitivity than men.
journals.sagepub.com
Part of this disgust sensitivity is probably rooted in aversion to real illness - and sex is one transmission route.
Perhaps unsurprising that women are also more vulnerable to STDs than men are.
The risks of promiscuity for women have always been higher, as well. Pregnancy itself being the classic example.
But less explored is that male promiscuity may also represent a larger risk for female mates.
Another pressure for female aversion to promiscuous males.
"But revealed preferences" in the comments.
The vast majority of relationships are monogamous and almost everyone will end a relationship over promiscuity.
No stronger revealed preference than that.
A "revealed preference" similarly would be the fact we predominantly form exclusive pair bonds and aren't serial maters like bonobos.
What we actually see is an absence of revealed preferences for promiscuous behaviors.

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