The first 5 years will be the hardest in the marriage. Especially for couples who didn't court for long or cohabit for some years before wedding. Marriage is the coming together of grown adults, raised differently, for a common goal. It will be difficult, but it is achievable.
Before marrying, you must consider all compatibilities. I refer to both the man and the woman. Below you can read about the major compatibilities. Do not take any for granted.
Now, you need to understand, love, feelings and emotions are not enough to keep a marriage. You must always remember the vows and your commitment. In good and in bad times, to forever. Be mindful of this.
Character is super important. The man must posseses some, to keep a woman. The man is the leader of a normal union. He makes the major decisions. Live with the woman with understanding, and be the "mature" one, like you deal with your subordinate.
For women are dramatic in nature, and are annoying, though lovely, most of the time. You the man must not take her words too seriously, not exchange words with her, not curse or yell at her. You instruct, and correct her firmly, but with love. Not like she's your enemy.
Because I said Women are dramatic, doesn't mean women are insane, or stupid. You're also an adult, who knows what you're doing. Maybe not always. But as a woman, you must be submissive, and respect your man at all times. Not toxic. Not contentious.
You treat your husband with absolute respect, privately or publicly. You learn to tolerate him, and endure. You came to his world, you must bend to his will. If you're not pleased with this, you stay single. You and your husband are not equal. Get rid of that nonsense.
The roles in marriages are crystal clear. The man is the sole provider, and the protector. The woman nurtures and support. Cook and clean. If I walk into any home, and see the house clean, arranged, I assume there is a good woman in it. These are your duties, face them.
You the woman have no business "pokenosing" into the affairs of your man, investigating him and stuffs. Men will do men stuffs and always return to you, if he truly loves you. You have to accept and make peace with this. Yours maybe faithful, good luck.
And as the husband, do not rub side chicks to your wife's face. You don't honor her. And if you want to be poly, make it known. Polygamy over cheating. This is the way of Emperors, kings, and strong Men. Cheaters are weaklings.
Keep the secrets of yo home. Be mindful of who you share your problems with. Most can be resolved in the bedroom. Resist shouting, don't bring back dead matters. Forgive yourselves. All homes have their problems, they manage it with wisdom. Both must forbear, tolerate and endure.
Do not talk about divorce, nor should you have heated arguments together. It profits nothing. We can talk about divorce, if/when the wife cheats and if or when the man physically abuse, unprovoked. Which is almost impossible for a normal man, without cause.
Play your role, don't give the woman an excuse for infidelity. And you the woman, don't give the man reasons to abuse you. This is why the woman must submit and respect her man and you man understand and love your woman.
As the woman, you are the home maker. 'A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.' Make the home peaceable and habitable. Don't be stupid. And take good care of your husband and your children.
Finally, Put God in your marriage. Do things together. Pray, eat and gist together. Understand yourselves. A thing your partner does or says you don't understand? Ask questions, and not jump into conclusions, like idiots. Peace be unto you all.
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