You can have all the confidence in the world...
But if you don’t know HOW to start conversations with women, you WILL NOT get dates.
Here's are all the types of openers you can use right way (and templates/lines you can use along the way)
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But if you don’t know HOW to start conversations with women, you WILL NOT get dates.
Here's are all the types of openers you can use right way (and templates/lines you can use along the way)
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1/ The Direct Opener
Ex: "Hey, I think you're gorgeous and I just HAD to come over and say hi."
Now...unless the girl is already showing overt signs she's into you - this opener is terrible.
The reason is that women take longer to decide if they like you than men do.
Ex: "Hey, I think you're gorgeous and I just HAD to come over and say hi."
Now...unless the girl is already showing overt signs she's into you - this opener is terrible.
The reason is that women take longer to decide if they like you than men do.
If you come right out and display your interest like that, it forces her to decide then and there if she likes you back, and most women will opt to reject you instead.
Many guys use this opener because they don't know what else to say.
This thread will change that.
Many guys use this opener because they don't know what else to say.
This thread will change that.
The remaining ones will be better to use because they don't telegraph your interest.
Use those instead, but keep the direct opener in your pocket for girls that are obviously into you.
The rest are all known as "indirect" openers.
Use those instead, but keep the direct opener in your pocket for girls that are obviously into you.
The rest are all known as "indirect" openers.
2/ The Compliment Opener
Ex: "Hey, I like your outfit - it looks very well put together. Good work."
Some men get confused and think this is direct, but in fact it's not.
You aren't showing interest, you're simply showing appreciation for her efforts and complimenting her.
Ex: "Hey, I like your outfit - it looks very well put together. Good work."
Some men get confused and think this is direct, but in fact it's not.
You aren't showing interest, you're simply showing appreciation for her efforts and complimenting her.
Note: Do NOT compliment her looks.
Compliment something about her that took effort (her style, hair, outfit, shoes, confidence, etc.).
High value men are surrounded by beauty all the time so they don't need to compliment it.
Show an appreciation for things that aren't sexual.
Compliment something about her that took effort (her style, hair, outfit, shoes, confidence, etc.).
High value men are surrounded by beauty all the time so they don't need to compliment it.
Show an appreciation for things that aren't sexual.
3/ The "Functional" Opener
Ex: "Hey, how do I get to the Starbucks?"
This opener serves an actual "function" that you need, hence the name.
This one is easy for beginners because it takes the pressure off and is super indirect, but the challenge then becomes how to transition.
Ex: "Hey, how do I get to the Starbucks?"
This opener serves an actual "function" that you need, hence the name.
This one is easy for beginners because it takes the pressure off and is super indirect, but the challenge then becomes how to transition.
4/ The Opinion Opener
Ex: "Hey quick question for you - if you had to choose, would you prefer to be Kim Kardashian or Bella Hadid. I'm having this debate with a girl friend of mine and need help trying to settle it."
This is the one I recommend most.
Ex: "Hey quick question for you - if you had to choose, would you prefer to be Kim Kardashian or Bella Hadid. I'm having this debate with a girl friend of mine and need help trying to settle it."
This is the one I recommend most.
People love giving their opinions and it's an easy way to transition further into convo based on the topic.
The format is:
The format is:
- Intro ("Hey quick question") ->
- Question ("Would you prefer..." or "what do you think of X vs Y") ->
- Reason for asking ("I'm having this debate...")
The beauty is that you can ask for opinions on anything at all and they make for good convo.
- Question ("Would you prefer..." or "what do you think of X vs Y") ->
- Reason for asking ("I'm having this debate...")
The beauty is that you can ask for opinions on anything at all and they make for good convo.
5/ The Introduction Opener
This one is simple. If your wingman or female friend knows the girl, ask them to introduce you to her.
Social proof is very powerful, and when a friend of the girl can vouch for you, it opens the door much easier than you alone.
This one is simple. If your wingman or female friend knows the girl, ask them to introduce you to her.
Social proof is very powerful, and when a friend of the girl can vouch for you, it opens the door much easier than you alone.
6/ The Observational Opener
Ex: "It's awfully quiet today, isn't it?"
Simply an observation about the situation you're both in.
Can be about anything: what drink she has, the music playing, the atmosphere.
This is the most improv-like so I recommend it to intermediate+ guys.
Ex: "It's awfully quiet today, isn't it?"
Simply an observation about the situation you're both in.
Can be about anything: what drink she has, the music playing, the atmosphere.
This is the most improv-like so I recommend it to intermediate+ guys.
That's it - now get out there and practice!
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