How to have more meaningful conversations.
The Rose-Bud-Thorn Framework:
The Rose-Bud-Thorn Framework:
Meaningful relationships are built on meaningful conversations.
For many, these conversations don’t come naturally.
The Rose-Bud-Thorn framework is a way to structure a conversation to be more meaningful and engaging.
All you need to do is ask 3 simple questions:
For many, these conversations don’t come naturally.
The Rose-Bud-Thorn framework is a way to structure a conversation to be more meaningful and engaging.
All you need to do is ask 3 simple questions:
1. What was the best part of your day?
Question one is "rose."
The rose itself is soft, looks pretty, and smells delicious.
It’s a challenge to sell a rose and think of nasty things.
With this open-ended question, you can hear what they enjoy, love, and want to see more of.
Question one is "rose."
The rose itself is soft, looks pretty, and smells delicious.
It’s a challenge to sell a rose and think of nasty things.
With this open-ended question, you can hear what they enjoy, love, and want to see more of.
2. What are you excited about?
Question two is the “bud.”
The rosebud has yet to bloom, but when it does, you know it’ll be beautiful.
When someone shares what they’re excited about, you can’t help but hear their heart, see their dreams, and connect with their desires.
Question two is the “bud.”
The rosebud has yet to bloom, but when it does, you know it’ll be beautiful.
When someone shares what they’re excited about, you can’t help but hear their heart, see their dreams, and connect with their desires.
3. What was your biggest challenge today?
Question three is the “thorn.”
Rose thorns can cut you, but they can’t kill you.
When someone shares their struggles, you come face to face with their weaknesses and fears.
Provoking vulnerability creates lasting connections.
Question three is the “thorn.”
Rose thorns can cut you, but they can’t kill you.
When someone shares their struggles, you come face to face with their weaknesses and fears.
Provoking vulnerability creates lasting connections.
It's not about you selfishly wanting a meaningful connection.
You can use these questions to learn more about them and help them reflect on their own lives.
Answering these questions may be the first time many have stopped to think about their lives in days, weeks, or months.
You can use these questions to learn more about them and help them reflect on their own lives.
Answering these questions may be the first time many have stopped to think about their lives in days, weeks, or months.
People spend a lot of time doing and little time reflecting in today's world.
By asking these questions, you create a more meaningful and engaging conversation.
People want to share and process their thoughts and feelings; they often just haven’t taken the time to do it.
By asking these questions, you create a more meaningful and engaging conversation.
People want to share and process their thoughts and feelings; they often just haven’t taken the time to do it.
—Summary—
The Rose-Bud-Thorn Framework:
1. Rose — "What was the best part of your day?"
2. Bud — "What are you excited about?"
3. Thorn — "What was your biggest challenge today?"
The Rose-Bud-Thorn Framework:
1. Rose — "What was the best part of your day?"
2. Bud — "What are you excited about?"
3. Thorn — "What was your biggest challenge today?"
Life is too short to waste time making small talk.
With this simple framework, you can avoid discussing the weather, the latest sports events, and anything else that wastes time.
Apply this today and watch your relationships blossom into beautiful roses.
With this simple framework, you can avoid discussing the weather, the latest sports events, and anything else that wastes time.
Apply this today and watch your relationships blossom into beautiful roses.
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