It’s amusing to see this urge to reverse roles. “If the roles were reversed”. “Why will a 60 year old man go for a 24 year old lady?” “Why should women have to submit?” Same old rhetorics. And I wonder how hard it is to understand these things.
Women will keep desiring financially stable, good looking, and/or powerful men. Men will always be sensitive to women’s sexual laxities, and will keep demanding respect/authority from their women whether directly or indirectly. Whether shamed or not.
Men will keep lavishing on women provided they get what they want, be it just sex. Many women do not mind marrying for money, submitting to their men and even abandoning actual careers to stay at home and be spoiled. Including your professionals.
Men will always have huge egos and in many cases, for many men, this sensitivity will create double standards you despise. Like men feeling entitled to cheat but being maniacally offended by even the imagination of their female partners doing the same.
Women, on the other hand, will always be sensitive to how they are treated and this sensitivity will also create double standards you despise. Like feeling deserving of being spoiled financially (as a way of showing you love them) even when they’re not returning that gesture.
When you see women tweet sometimes that they are tired of being independent, and want to marry rich men, they are not always joking. Men, too, talk about and actively avoid women whom they suspect to be promiscuous. Humans are all too human.
And it’s not necessarily social conditioning or poor orientation as people will have you believe. You will see even (or especially) men and women raised in the best societies, under the best conditions still making these same choices.
Does this mean there are no rooms for improvements? No it doesn’t mean that. Of course some of these proclivities are taken too far and they hurt the other party. But the solutions are often bespoke and can only administered on a case-by-case basis.
No amount of social media “but if the roles were reversed” will stop men tomorrow from dating significantly younger ladies or a ladies from marrying for the money. It’s stupid to think there is a general solution to an asymmetry that will outlive even our descendants.
Feminism is a clamour for equality of opportunities and it’s good. But feminism does not guarantee equality of outcomes because the choices men and women make have peculiar, underlying nuances that do not always yield politically correct outcomes.
This is why relationships are personal and require love and compatibility FROM the actual parties involved and FOR. their own good. Ordinarily, we are merely slaves to biological and sociological imperatives, even though we foolishly overestimate our capacities from time to time.
Temper this urge to bridge the asymmetry in men-women behaviors. It portrays very little knowledge of human nature. People in relationships will have to personally do that. If a woman wants to be a trophy wife, she will. Tired, she may leave or renegotiate her contract.
The same goes for men. In either cases, the extent he or she is willing to demand or give will depend on what the parties share and the loving commitment they have towards creating a dynamic that works for their own good.
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