This ad actually did a great job at depicting a functional relationship from a marital/behavioral perspective.
Basically all of the behaviors that predict relationship stability and success from the Gottman perspective.
Basically all of the behaviors that predict relationship stability and success from the Gottman perspective.
For example, we see both the husband and the wife interacting with each other positively throughout the day.
Doing activities to care for one another.
And having close communication.
Doing activities to care for one another.
And having close communication.
Relationship with the kid seems good:
Very positive and prosocial behavior throughout. Shared rituals and shared meaning.
Gottman famously identified the "Four Horsemen" of divorce - behaviors that were highly predictive of divorce.
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Here are positive predictors from Gottman's research for what makes a marriage last.
You can see elements of these in most of the behaviors depicted throughout the clip.
You can see elements of these in most of the behaviors depicted throughout the clip.
No emotional withdrawal, more "we-ness" than "me-ness," fondness, and a shared journey.
A lot of comments basically saying "why isn't she working."
You can work or you can be a stay-at-home spouse, this is incidental to the behavior in the vid.
If your relationship is missing most of the interpersonal behavior in this clip I would be concerned for it.
You can work or you can be a stay-at-home spouse, this is incidental to the behavior in the vid.
If your relationship is missing most of the interpersonal behavior in this clip I would be concerned for it.
In other words, I hope you and your partner are treating each other as good as the couple in this clip - regardless of how your relationship may be structured differently.
And I don't mean a literal "fix your husband a tin of pickles and falafel."
I am talking about the quality of interaction we see between the two partners.
I am talking about the quality of interaction we see between the two partners.
This is exactly the kind of behavior you should expect in highly functional relationships.
It's a couple that looks to be not only highly in love, but also that engages in the shared behaviors over time that cement lasting relationships.
The "conservative" message in the ad overall is a very mild "marriage is good."
Which, for the most part, is consistent with research on marriage: it predicts good life trajectories, or at worst doesn't predict bad ones.
See here:
Which, for the most part, is consistent with research on marriage: it predicts good life trajectories, or at worst doesn't predict bad ones.
See here:
"Being single, alone, and isolated feels bad," similarly is a shared human belief. Across cultures, political ideologies, and also supported by research.
The observation that most people don't want to come home at night to a dark house and a turtle needs no political hot take.
Loneliness is shared across the political aisle.
And letting your turtle on the dinner table is how you get salmonella.
Loneliness is shared across the political aisle.
And letting your turtle on the dinner table is how you get salmonella.
This ad is also a bit of a Rorschach test.
Women who are skeptical of traditional relationships: "she is a slave; he is a loser."
Men who are jaded and struggle to form a relationship like this: "good women don't exist, this relationship is impossible."
Some just like turtles:
Women who are skeptical of traditional relationships: "she is a slave; he is a loser."
Men who are jaded and struggle to form a relationship like this: "good women don't exist, this relationship is impossible."
Some just like turtles:
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