You’ve had it with this approval addiction.
You know you're struggling with it.
You know the damage it’s doing to you.
And you want to banish it forever from your life.
How? Read on...
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You know you're struggling with it.
You know the damage it’s doing to you.
And you want to banish it forever from your life.
How? Read on...
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Well, your prayers have been answered.
In this thread, I’m going to share the exact 7-step system I use to help my clients get rid of their approval addiction forever.
Before I tell you about the system, let me start by telling you how I came up with it.
In this thread, I’m going to share the exact 7-step system I use to help my clients get rid of their approval addiction forever.
Before I tell you about the system, let me start by telling you how I came up with it.
By now, you already know why I started my journey to kick my approval addiction back in 2018.
(If you don’t, you can read my backstory here)
(If you don’t, you can read my backstory here)
But the journey was not an easy one.
It was awkward as hell.
I felt like a new child learning to walk. And I stumbled a lot.
I had no one to talk to and no one to turn to for guidance, except for the books and courses.
They were helpful, but only up to an extent.
It was awkward as hell.
I felt like a new child learning to walk. And I stumbled a lot.
I had no one to talk to and no one to turn to for guidance, except for the books and courses.
They were helpful, but only up to an extent.
Books and courses give you the knowledge that you need.
You understand the problem intellectually and you understand what you need to do.
But with no one to address the exact queries, it doesn’t always feel like the right path to travel.
You understand the problem intellectually and you understand what you need to do.
But with no one to address the exact queries, it doesn’t always feel like the right path to travel.
I’ll give you an example of my early struggles.
My earlier value systems clashed with this new set of value systems that I was trying to cultivate.
I held the old me responsible for my pain.
I thought that I had to completely disown my earlier persona.
My earlier value systems clashed with this new set of value systems that I was trying to cultivate.
I held the old me responsible for my pain.
I thought that I had to completely disown my earlier persona.
So I set out to change everything about myself.
Even the qualities I cherished about myself - kindness, sense of humor, humility.
And when you start to disown parts of yourself, things only get worse.
Even the qualities I cherished about myself - kindness, sense of humor, humility.
And when you start to disown parts of yourself, things only get worse.
I acted like an absolute jerk for a while.
It was always followed by regret and then I had to process the guilt and anxiety.
My relationship with my wife deteriorated.
But somehow, as the amazing woman she is, she bore this phase with kindness, patience, and understanding.
It was always followed by regret and then I had to process the guilt and anxiety.
My relationship with my wife deteriorated.
But somehow, as the amazing woman she is, she bore this phase with kindness, patience, and understanding.
I had tapped into this sea of simmering rage and resentment within me.
This is very normal when you’re dealing with approval addiction.
Because you are used to repressing your anger and putting up a smiling face.
This is very normal when you’re dealing with approval addiction.
Because you are used to repressing your anger and putting up a smiling face.
But just because you shoved it in the basement, doesn’t mean it went away.
It’s still lurking there in your subconscious.
Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing prepares you for that unsurmountable rage.
And now it was staring back at me and I had no clue how to process it.
It’s still lurking there in your subconscious.
Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing prepares you for that unsurmountable rage.
And now it was staring back at me and I had no clue how to process it.
I started running followed by a rigorous workout routine.
That helped a lot
So did creative pursuits like learning to play the violin (I had always wanted to learn how to play an instrument).
But it was all very unstructured.
Some things helped, and some didn’t.
That helped a lot
So did creative pursuits like learning to play the violin (I had always wanted to learn how to play an instrument).
But it was all very unstructured.
Some things helped, and some didn’t.
You have to find a way to not get lost in all that rage.
You have to stop blaming yourself.
You have to forgive yourself for all the transgressions you made and the ones that you allowed to happen.
You have to stop blaming yourself.
You have to forgive yourself for all the transgressions you made and the ones that you allowed to happen.
You have to become kinder to yourself.
You have to start liking yourself and even loving yourself.
That’s when the magic starts to happen.
That’s when you start to heal.
You have to start liking yourself and even loving yourself.
That’s when the magic starts to happen.
That’s when you start to heal.
And that’s where the need for a system and a framework comes in.
It helps you become aware of yourself - about your strengths and weaknesses, your goals, and your values.
Without that clarity, you will fall back to the path of least resistance.
Back to approval addiction.
It helps you become aware of yourself - about your strengths and weaknesses, your goals, and your values.
Without that clarity, you will fall back to the path of least resistance.
Back to approval addiction.
But once you have them uncovered, they serve as a north star in your journey.
Then you need systems that slowly build up your reserves of confidence and self-esteem.
So that your days feel satisfactory and you can stay kind to yourself.
Then you need systems that slowly build up your reserves of confidence and self-esteem.
So that your days feel satisfactory and you can stay kind to yourself.
You need systems to uncover the faulty thoughts that have been holding you back.
And you have to replace them with ones that serve you.
You have to develop skills for handling your emotions, building better boundaries,
and holding your ground against pushbacks.
And you have to replace them with ones that serve you.
You have to develop skills for handling your emotions, building better boundaries,
and holding your ground against pushbacks.
You have to build systems that will gradually build up your courage and allow you to face your greatest fears.
And you have to prepare yourself to face the challenges in the future so that you never regress.
And you have to prepare yourself to face the challenges in the future so that you never regress.
So how do you do all of that?
This is where the 7-Step Approval Reboot program was born.
While working with clients, I was able to see the commonalities and develop a real method for each one to go through.
This is where the 7-Step Approval Reboot program was born.
While working with clients, I was able to see the commonalities and develop a real method for each one to go through.
Some clients got results right away when we focussed on their key thought barriers.
Others needed a lot of upfront work with their behaviors and thoughts before they started to see results.
Either way, the system worked better the more I developed it.
Others needed a lot of upfront work with their behaviors and thoughts before they started to see results.
Either way, the system worked better the more I developed it.
It’s a combination of a laser-focused coaching approach paired with cognitive behavioral theories.
And it can be used to deliver results at will, as long as a client is willing to show up and put in the work.
As a result of this system, lives were changed.
And it can be used to deliver results at will, as long as a client is willing to show up and put in the work.
As a result of this system, lives were changed.
People stopped being helpless and powerless.
They have become bold, confident, and authentic.
They started speaking up unapologetically, in their relationships, and at their work.
They have become bold, confident, and authentic.
They started speaking up unapologetically, in their relationships, and at their work.
They have put their foot down and enforced their boundaries against
- their demanding and ungrateful bosses
- their spouses
- their family members
- and their colleagues.
They have regained trust in their own capabilities and resourcefulness.
- their demanding and ungrateful bosses
- their spouses
- their family members
- and their colleagues.
They have regained trust in their own capabilities and resourcefulness.
They have stopped allowing others to speak over them, dominate them, mock them, and make them feel small.
In turn, others have stopped overlooking them, started to respect them, and even started to find them attractive and desirable.
In turn, others have stopped overlooking them, started to respect them, and even started to find them attractive and desirable.
Sounds amazing, right?
Dying to know the exact steps?
Watch this space for the next and last part of this series where I'll share exactly what I do - the byproduct of the thoughts and efforts that I put into this.
I promise I'm not gonna keep you hanging for long.
Dying to know the exact steps?
Watch this space for the next and last part of this series where I'll share exactly what I do - the byproduct of the thoughts and efforts that I put into this.
I promise I'm not gonna keep you hanging for long.
I'm looking for a few more people in their 30s-40s who want to stomp their approval addiction and become ASSERTIVE and SECURE in 8 weeks.
Without spending time and energy on trial and error.
DM me and let's see if we are a good fit 👇
Without spending time and energy on trial and error.
DM me and let's see if we are a good fit 👇
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