15 things emotionally intelligent people don't do:
1. They Don't Let Their Emotions Control Them.
Though they feel and understand their emotions, they do not let them lead them.
They know that expressing one's feelings constructively is as healthy as expressing one's feelings negatively.
Though they feel and understand their emotions, they do not let them lead them.
They know that expressing one's feelings constructively is as healthy as expressing one's feelings negatively.
2. They Don't Take Things Too Personally.
When we take things personally, we are constantly offended.
Even in difficult circumstances, they remain objective, understanding that it's not always about them.
When we take things personally, we are constantly offended.
Even in difficult circumstances, they remain objective, understanding that it's not always about them.
3. They Don't Dwell On The Past.
There can be no rewriting of the past.
Rather than dwelling on what happened in the past, they focus on the present and the future.
There can be no rewriting of the past.
Rather than dwelling on what happened in the past, they focus on the present and the future.
4. They Don't Make Hasty Decisions.
When you make a hasty decision, you are usually making a decision based on your emotions.
Prior to making a decision, they consider all options and pause before taking a final decision.
When you make a hasty decision, you are usually making a decision based on your emotions.
Prior to making a decision, they consider all options and pause before taking a final decision.
5. They Don’t Avoid Difficult Conversations.
A person who is emotionally intelligent sometimes knows that the only way out of a situation is through it.
They know that running from conversations doesn’t work and that open dialogue is essential for building strong relationships.
A person who is emotionally intelligent sometimes knows that the only way out of a situation is through it.
They know that running from conversations doesn’t work and that open dialogue is essential for building strong relationships.
6. They Don’t Jump To Conclusions.
When something is concluded without enough facts, it means that emotion played a significant role in the decision.
As a result, they form an opinion or make a judgment based on an objective look at all angles before coming to a conclusion.
When something is concluded without enough facts, it means that emotion played a significant role in the decision.
As a result, they form an opinion or make a judgment based on an objective look at all angles before coming to a conclusion.
7. They Don’t Engage In Gossip.
The act of gossip is detrimental to both those who gossip and those who are gossiped about.
It is critical to them that others' privacy be protected, and they will only share positive things about them with other people.
The act of gossip is detrimental to both those who gossip and those who are gossiped about.
It is critical to them that others' privacy be protected, and they will only share positive things about them with other people.
8. They Don't Blame Others.
When it comes to losing credibility and authority, blaming others will always be the fastest way.
Rather than blaming someone else for their mistakes and abdicating responsibility for their actions, they acknowledge and own their mistakes.
When it comes to losing credibility and authority, blaming others will always be the fastest way.
Rather than blaming someone else for their mistakes and abdicating responsibility for their actions, they acknowledge and own their mistakes.
9. They Don't Shy Away From Conflict Resolution.
In the same way that uncomfortable conversations are part of life, conflicts are as well.
They understand that some degree of constructive disagreement is healthy for progress and are willing to work through differences.
In the same way that uncomfortable conversations are part of life, conflicts are as well.
They understand that some degree of constructive disagreement is healthy for progress and are willing to work through differences.
10. They Don't Put Others Down.
Putting others down is a high-risk, low-reward activity.
They recognize that building others up is the quickest way to improve the world and build lasting connections.
Putting others down is a high-risk, low-reward activity.
They recognize that building others up is the quickest way to improve the world and build lasting connections.
11. They Don’t Let Fear Guide Their Decisions.
We should honor fear, but not always obey it.
Rather than acting based on fear, they take a logical approach, weighing all factors before making any long-term decisions.
We should honor fear, but not always obey it.
Rather than acting based on fear, they take a logical approach, weighing all factors before making any long-term decisions.
12. They Don’t Ruminate On Negative Thoughts.
You can choose how you respond to negative thoughts.
Instead of dwelling on self-doubt or pessimism, they identify these unhelpful thought patterns and find constructive ways to channel their energy.
You can choose how you respond to negative thoughts.
Instead of dwelling on self-doubt or pessimism, they identify these unhelpful thought patterns and find constructive ways to channel their energy.
13. They Don't Deny Their Feelings.
The feelings we experience are signals and feedback.
They learn to recognize and acknowledge their emotions, and those of others.
The feelings we experience are signals and feedback.
They learn to recognize and acknowledge their emotions, and those of others.
14. They Don’t Get Caught Up In Power Struggles.
There is no good outcome to power struggles.
They understand the importance of respect and cooperation in all relationships and do not attempt to control other people or outcomes.
There is no good outcome to power struggles.
They understand the importance of respect and cooperation in all relationships and do not attempt to control other people or outcomes.
15. They Don't Take Shortcuts.
There is no such thing as a shortcut.
They accept that consistent work, commitment, and perseverance are necessary for achieving long-term success.
There is no such thing as a shortcut.
They accept that consistent work, commitment, and perseverance are necessary for achieving long-term success.
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