She was kicked out of her marital home with only Rs 750 in her bank account
Since then, she is working to destigmatize divorces and make them easier for people in India
I had a chance to meet her and here are 9 things that I learned from the conversation; a thread 🧵
Since then, she is working to destigmatize divorces and make them easier for people in India
I had a chance to meet her and here are 9 things that I learned from the conversation; a thread 🧵
1) You will not always be the most liked person in the room.
People might raise their eyebrows at you or go silent when you enter a space.
But do not let that deter your confidence or question it, and own your ground.
People might raise their eyebrows at you or go silent when you enter a space.
But do not let that deter your confidence or question it, and own your ground.
2) India is an extremely social country.
And while it's a good thing, sometimes this often leads Indian families to decide under the pressure of pleasing society.
Even if it sometimes means going against their family’s wishes.
And while it's a good thing, sometimes this often leads Indian families to decide under the pressure of pleasing society.
Even if it sometimes means going against their family’s wishes.
3) Sadly, education doesn’t act as a barrier to abuse in India
A lot of people, especially girls in India are married to ‘highly wealthy and educated people’.
And yet, the abuse/domestic violence rates in India are at an all-time high, especially in the metro regions.
A lot of people, especially girls in India are married to ‘highly wealthy and educated people’.
And yet, the abuse/domestic violence rates in India are at an all-time high, especially in the metro regions.
4) Society is still not ready to accept independent women
Even though there is progress being made, society has high expectations from them.
Women are expected to be the breadwinners, the homemaker, & the caretaker & still compromise when it comes to getting their voices heard
Even though there is progress being made, society has high expectations from them.
Women are expected to be the breadwinners, the homemaker, & the caretaker & still compromise when it comes to getting their voices heard
5) Men will be men is a toxic narrative.
This phrase is highly abused in India and across the world to justify their abusive and violent behaviors.
Because a true man is someone who is willing to learn and be the change that our society needs for it to be a better place.
This phrase is highly abused in India and across the world to justify their abusive and violent behaviors.
Because a true man is someone who is willing to learn and be the change that our society needs for it to be a better place.
6) Shame is a major factor for a lot of people not cheating on their spouses
It's a fact that a lot of partners get the urge to seek something out of their marriage for a variety of reasons.
It's a fact that a lot of partners get the urge to seek something out of their marriage for a variety of reasons.
But what would their children think if they came to know about it preventing them from cheating?
7) Dowry still continues to be an intricate part of the Indian society
Earlier, it was just asked for by the groom’s family up front. But now, it is disguised as the exchange of items under the terms of ‘gifts’, ‘token of love’ or ‘securing the couple’s future’.
Earlier, it was just asked for by the groom’s family up front. But now, it is disguised as the exchange of items under the terms of ‘gifts’, ‘token of love’ or ‘securing the couple’s future’.
8) The first step towards changing the future is speaking it out.
As the younger generation, if we see someone promoting any outdated/illegal customs at our homes, we must stand up against it.
As the younger generation, if we see someone promoting any outdated/illegal customs at our homes, we must stand up against it.
It is only when we voice our opinions and refuse to abide under the pressures of these rules that the change will come.
9) Superficial things are what can make relationships happier
It does not need to be super expensive to keep your spouse happy.
It does not need to be super expensive to keep your spouse happy.
Getting them a card, a bouquet of flowers, dressing up with them, going out on a good meal, and spending the day together, all these gestures can keep a marriage healthy and playful.
This week I invited Vandana Shah (@Vandy4PM), an author, and a divorce lawyer
We talked about divorce in India, its complexities, and the societal stigma attached to it.
Link: rajshamani.openinapp.co
We talked about divorce in India, its complexities, and the societal stigma attached to it.
Link: rajshamani.openinapp.co
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