How to make dominating people shit their pants.
A thread to break free:
A thread to break free:
Most of you have surely encountered people who tried to establish a balance of power with you.
Those people are naturally dominant, they feel better when they’re on the attacking play.
Those people are naturally dominant, they feel better when they’re on the attacking play.
And what makes them so effective is that they’re not easily destabilized.
Cause they know how to react to common attacks.
Cause they know how to react to common attacks.
If you rush headlong you risk losing face.
The truth is that your best weapon in such situations is counter attack.
Here’s 4 ways to destabilize them:
The truth is that your best weapon in such situations is counter attack.
Here’s 4 ways to destabilize them:
Stage 1 : Cancel attempts of domination
If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone tried to dominating you.
You’ve noticed that it often starts with non-verbals.
Someone who touch your hand ,Or get his arm around your shoulders in an inappropriate way.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone tried to dominating you.
You’ve noticed that it often starts with non-verbals.
Someone who touch your hand ,Or get his arm around your shoulders in an inappropriate way.
If this happens to you.
Never make the mistake of reacting angrily.
It will give your opponent the occasion to ridiculize you by pointing out that you’re overreacting.
Never make the mistake of reacting angrily.
It will give your opponent the occasion to ridiculize you by pointing out that you’re overreacting.
What you should do is reproduce the same move with goodwill.
For example if he puts his arm around your shoulders, you reproduce the same thing with a big smile.
Most of the time it’s enough for cancelling the attempt.
For example if he puts his arm around your shoulders, you reproduce the same thing with a big smile.
Most of the time it’s enough for cancelling the attempt.
But if it doesn’t work.
You can use this sentence:
"Tell me you’re particularly tactile today"
and remove his hand at the same time using authority and humor.
You can use this sentence:
"Tell me you’re particularly tactile today"
and remove his hand at the same time using authority and humor.
Stage 2: Never let someone give you an ultimatum.
Everyone of us have already experienced an attempt of domination by forcing us to take a decision.
It can be at work like a recruiter who gives you a job offer and ask for a direct answer or in personal relationships.
Everyone of us have already experienced an attempt of domination by forcing us to take a decision.
It can be at work like a recruiter who gives you a job offer and ask for a direct answer or in personal relationships.
If you don’t react you’ll be trapped for two reasons.
First you’ve been taken by surprise and you don’t have time to think about it.
Secondly you’ve been given two solutions when there is more.
First you’ve been taken by surprise and you don’t have time to think about it.
Secondly you’ve been given two solutions when there is more.
Here you should never give a hasty answer.
What you should do is saying something like :
What you should do is saying something like :
"I appreciate this great opportunity, i will study the terms and be back to you tomorrow "
By doing this,
You’re giving yourself time to think without accusing the person in front of you, and you affirm your limits.
By doing this,
You’re giving yourself time to think without accusing the person in front of you, and you affirm your limits.
Stage 3: Don’t let place to insinuations.
Some people will try dominating you by using insinuations.
You must not let place to any of it.
Some people will try dominating you by using insinuations.
You must not let place to any of it.
The first way you can use is
Showing that you noticed the insinuation to which you’re willing to respond.
Example :
" I guess this one is for me"
It will clear the air and show your courage.
Showing that you noticed the insinuation to which you’re willing to respond.
Example :
" I guess this one is for me"
It will clear the air and show your courage.
However if the attack is more specific and personal.
You should use a figure of speech that consists of talking about something after announcing that you won’t.
You should use a figure of speech that consists of talking about something after announcing that you won’t.
Example:
"Personally i wont tell you that you (A,B,C) because im not interested"
This gets you in a high position and you’re perceived better.
"Personally i wont tell you that you (A,B,C) because im not interested"
This gets you in a high position and you’re perceived better.
Stage 4: Ridiculize your opponent.
Sometimes someone can attack you with an offensive question like:
"Why don’t you just say that you’re racist? "
Sometimes someone can attack you with an offensive question like:
"Why don’t you just say that you’re racist? "
Here you should just laugh at your opponent and give an answer like:
"If you only knew how ridiculous that statement is you wouldn’t have said it."
"If you only knew how ridiculous that statement is you wouldn’t have said it."
Your calmness will completely destabilize the person who tries to dominate you.
And at the same time it will open the eyes of the audience concerning his accusations.
And at the same time it will open the eyes of the audience concerning his accusations.
That's a wrap!
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