Thank you for your well wishes jana. They were heartfelt.
I feel like sharing just one lesson my 1st year of marriage taught me.
(There are PLENTY but this one is my favorite)
I feel like sharing just one lesson my 1st year of marriage taught me.
(There are PLENTY but this one is my favorite)
This is for the un-married and people who have never lived with a significant other full time. Wenye experience zenu kindly scroll endeleeni na mambo mengine. We KNOW you are more experienced. Congratulations on your 10 years of marriage 🤝🏾
Being married has exposed me to myself. I really got to meet myself. I was introduced to me. Kitabia.
Zile tabia nzuri hazikunishtua sababu nilikua tayari nazijua, na hata nilipogundua nyingine mpya, nazo hazikunishtua sana.
Ila nilishtuka sana kuzijua zile tabia zangu mbaya.
Zile tabia nzuri hazikunishtua sababu nilikua tayari nazijua, na hata nilipogundua nyingine mpya, nazo hazikunishtua sana.
Ila nilishtuka sana kuzijua zile tabia zangu mbaya.
Because we always believe kwamba we are good people. Ndio maana siku zote huwa tunalalamikia watu wengine ndo wabaya.
Marriage will slowly dissect you. It will put you in places where the real you will be revealed. Itakuweka in positions ambazo zitatrigger kila kitu.
Marriage will slowly dissect you. It will put you in places where the real you will be revealed. Itakuweka in positions ambazo zitatrigger kila kitu.
Now how you respond to these crises ndipo hasa utajijua wewe ni nani. And oh you will be shocked, and your partner will be shocked as well.
You think you know yourself? Yeah i also thought i did. Many married people thought they did. Until they realized they didn’t.
You think you know yourself? Yeah i also thought i did. Many married people thought they did. Until they realized they didn’t.
Wakati mwingine watu wanablame watu walibadilika baada ya kuoa/kuolewa.. listen, kuna baadhi yao hawakubadilika hata, ni kwamba hata wao wenyewe walikua hawajui kuwa hivyo ndivyo walivyo. Until the pressures of marriage exposed the other them.
So it was hard to accept kwamba as much as i am a good person, i am also just as bad. Sio rahisi kukubali kwamba una tutabia tubaya. But the earlier you recognize and accept that, ndivyo utakavyoweza kumaster ku-suppress that bad side na kunavigate around your bad tendencies.
Sababu tabia huwa haziondoki. Ni nature yako. Ila ukijipa nafasi ya kuzielewa na kujifunza namna ya kuishi nazo ili zisilete madhara makubwa, italeta ahueni.
So, it is NOT a bed of roses. You learn things the hard way. And it takes a lot of patience and the Grace of God.
So, it is NOT a bed of roses. You learn things the hard way. And it takes a lot of patience and the Grace of God.
And sio kama my bad behaviors zimeondoka, but i am more aware of them now, so hata pale zinapo-pop (maana ni kama reflex tu hujui zitaibuka time gani), ni rahisi kwangu to talk myself back to being reasonable/sane.
So i can say my 1st year was the “oh, kumbe” phase of my marriage 🤣🤣 lots of realizations swarmed in and oh i was not prepared.
So, i believe we should have a little more grace for ourselves and our partnes. Sababu wote tunakua tunanavigate new waters.
So, i believe we should have a little more grace for ourselves and our partnes. Sababu wote tunakua tunanavigate new waters.
I am not saying tolerate nonsense. By all means DO NOT!
But a bit more patience and resilience would be great. Maana it’s so easy to give up.
Hence, msijudge sana ambao ndoa ziliwashinda mapema, it’s not as easy as it supposedly looks. Hata kama mnapendana kufa
But a bit more patience and resilience would be great. Maana it’s so easy to give up.
Hence, msijudge sana ambao ndoa ziliwashinda mapema, it’s not as easy as it supposedly looks. Hata kama mnapendana kufa
But i can assure you, with a partner that likes you enough, it won’t be as bad.
Ila you have to accept that your partner is not a good person, just like you. Because that is the truth.
Take care and get married if marriage is your cup of tea. Do not be discouraged 🫶🏾❤️
Ila you have to accept that your partner is not a good person, just like you. Because that is the truth.
Take care and get married if marriage is your cup of tea. Do not be discouraged 🫶🏾❤️
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